Romantic crushes on fictional characters from books or even from stories that you have created can be both enjoyable and rewarding however they can also be time consuming, energy sapping and wreck havoc with your emotions. Some crushes on fictional characters can last for years. They can also be very difficult to snap out of (in my head I am currently thinking about my ‘thing’ with Mr Darcy in ‘Pride and Prejudice’).
It is therefore important to learn how to cope with your crush. Here at Blondewritemore we are here to help.
The Benefits of a Fictional Character Crush:
- With fictional characters there is no fear of rejection, no long term disappointment, no risk of pregnancy, no marital discord, no risk of divorce or affairs.
- Things get much easier once you accept it will be a one sided love affair.
- Think of the cost savings with dating someone who does not exist.
- You will never have to introduce your fictional love interest to family members or friends.
- Your fictional love interest will always be there for you. They don’t have sporting events to attend, work commitments or nights out with the lads. If you want to spend time with your fictional character just pick up your book or dive into your story.
Learning to Keep Your Crush Alive:
- Think about all of their bad points. These are normally the character traits that make us love our fictional character even more. Sigh!
- Make sure you invest time in your fictional love interest. Forget things like laundry, housework etc. Reach for your book or story and dive back into their world.
If you feel your crush is getting out of hand try some of these tips to dampen down those hot and sweaty feelings:
- Play the ‘fictional character’ field and read other books or create new characters.
- Write a blog post on your crush and the reasons why you cannot stop thinking about them. Chances are there are other tortured souls out there who are also suffering or who have been able to move on from their fictional character crush.
- Imagine your fictional love interest in your world and ask yourself do they fit in? This has helped me overcome my crush with Legolas from Lord of the Rings. Picturing us wandering about my local ‘One Stop’ shop, me, tired housewife, carrying my basket full of household basics (toilet roll, dishwasher tablets and clingfilm) and him, attractive long haired elf, in tights, carrying his bow and arrows made me see my that our romance might not work on a practical level.
- Enjoy those fictional character crushes writers and readers!