9 Reactions From Loved Ones After You Ask Them to Read Your Draft #writer #writers


Reactions From Loved Ones After They Have Read Your Draft


Here are 9 initial reactions from loved ones, after you have asked them if they could do you a quick favour and have a look at what you have just written….

1. Do I have to?” – basically this means they want to carry on watching the sport on TV / reading the newspaper.

2. After a quick glance yea it’s ok – this can be very annoying especially if you have spent hours slaving over something. In your head your work of art deserves more than a ‘yea it’s ok’ – you were thinking of something along the lines of ‘OMG you are like the female version of Charles Dickens‘. This response ‘yea it’s ok’ normally means your loved one is just going through the motions so that you will go away and let them get back to watching sport on TV. Try asking them a question about the text and watch them squirm.

3. “Can’t you ask someone else to read it?” – cue your frustrated scream at loved one “I don’t have anyone else!”

4. I will look at it later – not what you want to hear if you have just emerged from writing corner with your literary masterpiece and are desperate for someone else to say ‘yes it’s a work of art.’ Depends on what ‘later’ means as you can go quickly off the boil with your work of art. By the time they get round to reading it you will have lost all your writing enthusiasm and be sat happily nibbling cheese and drinking wine.

5. Why don’t you show it to all your online writing buddies? – infuriating! Basically your loved one is ‘passing the buck.’ If you had wanted to show it to your ‘online writing buddies‘ then you would have put it on your blog and be sat waiting patiently for comments.

6. Why?” – simple but infuriating! Cue their blank look at you and your response “because you are the only person I have to look at my pile of literary manure and it would mean a lot to me if you just took the time from your busy schedule (reading newspaper / watching sport on TV) to have a look at it” – you will end up walking away muttering under your breath.

7. Email it to your mother and get her to look at it” – this a good example of a loved one ‘passing the buck.’ You can’t do this because there are scenes in your story which could make your mother change her opinion of you.

8.I looked at it last week – infuriating as they clearly don’t understand how many revisions a busy writer can make in a week! Some busy writers can make sweeping changes to a story in ten minutes given their mood and hormonal state.

9. Loud groan from loved one.


The moral of this tale is to persuade someone who is vaguely interested in writing to be your writing buddy.

Loved ones are good for other things…like in my case car issues, DIY, taking out the bins, picking good TV box sets to watch, telling off children who stopped listening to me years ago and handing me a glass of wine when I am a bit teary….

Happy Writing 🙂


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Laini Taylor,


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39 thoughts on “9 Reactions From Loved Ones After You Ask Them to Read Your Draft #writer #writers

  1. Man, I feel this.

    I count myself lucky – my wife isn’t that interested in reading my stuff, but I’ve a mate whose writing a novel and another mate who I’m comfortable sending stuff to. Of course, I need to actually write something first…


  2. I got the impression my husband wasn’t interested in reading my stuff years ago. My mum has read a few of my picture books and so has my sister but apart from that no one else has. Would be good to find a writing buddy.

      1. Thanks, it was a good day. Had my daughter’s friend’s birthday party down at the beach. Better get to bed now. It’ll soon be Monday and off to school and work!

  3. Haha! I always go to my family first. My younger sister who has the unofficial claim that she gets to read everything first always looks up and says “yeah, it’s good,” or “I like it,” and goes on her way. Me: Tell me mooore!! Is it really good? Why? Who did you like? Teelll meeeee!!!

    1. Your younger sister sounds great! My younger sister just groans and rolls her eyes. I know what you mean by the whole ‘tell me more’ bit – so frustrating isn’t it? Thx for commenting! Happy Sunday Claire B!

  4. I put asking family members to look at your writing right up there with the query “does this look infected?”

    No matter what the target is faced with, they prepare themselves to be repulsed, determine to put a smiley face on it simply to make you go away, and more often than not, aren’t really qualified to give you an actionable answer.

    And yet, writers continue to do this to family, if only because the opinions of a family member is so much easier to dismiss than those of other writers or editors. I mean, if they had any talent, they’d be asking us to look at their stuff, right?

    1. I love this comment, thx for making me smile. You have captured the essence of ‘asking a family member to look at your writing’ perfectly well. I love the ‘does this look infected’ line (still laughing). Seriously I don’t know why I put myself through this misery. Think I will just stick things on my blog in future and let WordPress people decide. Thx for commenting 🙂 Happy Sunday

      1. Glad to bring a smile (and chortle) to your day. I’m actually very lucky that my former spouse (and still confidante) is willing to eviscerate my writing for me…but that’s also why I wait until I am really really happy with the work before asking her to look at it. Best of luck!

  5. I think family members are unreliable critiquers anyway. My mother would love my grocery shopping list! We need other writers to bounce our work off. They are out there, especially if one is willing to reciprocate, they’re just hard to connect with initially.

  6. My almost tween granddaughter used to be a little interested but now she rolls her eyes and makes it clear she’s ‘busy’. 😀 😀 Nowadays, I keep my scribbles to myself. Sigh. Your list is perfect.

  7. I belong to Write Nights, every 1st and 3rd Mondays, 7-9, and i started my own, West End Writing Group, 2nd and 4th Mondays, different location. #Tryingtogetmywritingdone

  8. I must be one of the lucky few, because my husband wants me to read my stuff all the time. He adds his input and has actually come up with some pretty good ideas. Now, he’s into learning story structure. (I’m writing a post about that) But– he thinks everything I write is gold, which can also be a problem when the stuff sux, and you really need to hear it. Perhaps it’s time for you to knock on your neighbor’s door. 🙂

      1. Little tip: you want someone with more experience than you for a critique partner. Chat her up… accidentally on purpose, if you know what I mean. You never know.

  9. Mister looks at my novels, but only after I’ve had it beta read by my on-line writing buddies and I’ve finished “footling around with it” — as he calls it! My son, who has a degree in English and Creative Writing (lucky me) will read anything of mine, as long as it’s fantasy or just plain odd. Both he and Mister are constructive and honest in their opinions.

    PS I don’t think that family, the males in particular, like looking at first drafts that are fresh off the printing press!

      1. Please tell my son that. He’s unemployed just now and wishing he had studied science at university instead D: I’m feeling very sorry for him, as he has so much to offer if someone would give him the chance.

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