I recently experienced the dreaded smirk from someone close to me, a non-writer, in relation to my writing.
I told them that I liked to write and when asked “so are you writing a book then?” I replied “yes” and they smirked.
The dreaded smirk from a non writer can make you feel embarrassed / silly / ashamed / stupid / want to shrivel up and crawl away. It’s the ‘roll of the eyes’ combined with the ‘I can’t believe they actually write stuff’ amused expression which totally floors you.
When it happens to you the smirk reaction can knock you off your writing bicycle for days, sometimes even weeks.
Writing is such a personal thing and for some writers the dream can be crushed so easily.
Here are some ideas on how to handle the dreaded smirk from the non-writer:
1. Laugh. Yes – laugh about how something inside you makes you spend hours, days, weeks in isolation, staring at a laptop screen, muttering under your breath, creating people and worlds that don’t exist and churning out millions of words.
After this person stopped smirking I laughed so much they thought I had lost my marbles.
2. Steamroll the smirk – elaborate on how awesome it is to be…blogging with other artists…polishing up a manuscript…engaging with editors…working on cover ideas…sharing with writers from around the world…etc. This fab idea is from fellow blogger D. Wallace Peach 🙂
3. Change the subject. Accept that they are never going to relate to your writing, some people are not imaginative. It’s not a bad thing being unimaginative. The subject of writing must be hard to relate to if you are an unimaginative person. So to save you both from further anguish quickly change the subject.
4. Rise above it. Its not worth getting upset about or even writing a blog post about for that matter.
5. Carry on writing. The sooner you start writing after the smirk / snigger the better. If you leave it then their reaction will fester inside you and make you think about doing silly things like giving up writing.
6. Grow a thicker skin. Yon can’t let the reactions and comments from other people derail your writing goals. I need to do this. I think it has a lot to do with writing confidence and I am sure if I keep writing overtime I will grow this thicker skin.
7. Email a writer friend. I did this and it worked a treat. This fellow blogger / writer was very supportive / very understanding and put me back on my writing bicycle – thx Candice 🙂
8. Poke in the eye with blunt stick. A radical but effective way of dealing with the smirk. Thx to Anita Faulkner for this tip 🙂
9. Turn them into an annoying character in your book. Another radical but very satisfying tip! Thx again to the very creative Anita Faulkner 🙂
Sorry for the rant. I don’t usually rant but I needed to get this off my writing chest.
A final note to the person who smirked after hearing that I am writing a book. I am still writing it. #stillwriting
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