One of the things I have struggled over the years with is showing my blog to people who are not in my creative life. I used to cringe and shrivel up inside when I had to show someone my blog. It was like a form of torture.
Looking back I was more bothered about people’s reactions to my blog and the amount of time I spent writing my posts. So I’d play my blogging down, avoid talking about it and wish the ground would open up when someone asked to see what I blogged about.
I think people’s initial reactions to me being a blogger back in 2014 fuelled my blogging shame. After a lot of awkward looks, someone asking me whether a blog was an online site where I just posted photos of myself and several concerned glances from older relatives I decided to hide the fact I had a blog.
Blogging shame can take many forms.
It can creep up on you when you read one of your old posts. A shiver goes down your spine as you whisper, ‘did I really blog about dating tips for mythological creatures?’ (Yes, I wrote a post on that subject and even though I don’t like to admit it has been one of my all time popular posts).
It can also get mixed up with blog comparison syndrome. You come across a beautiful looking blog and before you know it you are comparing it to your own. The sight of your own blog brings on a multitude of negative feelings. ‘Why does my blog look so drab?’ you find yourself moaning to an uninterested loved one.
Blog embarrassment is actually a bit silly when you start to look at it properly. Blogs are designed to be read by different people, they’re not meant to be hidden away and only read by a chosen few.
I managed to work on my blog embarrassment. This is how:
- I reminded myself that my blog is an extension of me. It is a download of what is going on inside my head so it’s basically me, Lucy, in blog form.
- I put my heart and soul into my blog so I told myself I should be proud of it. Surely I should be proud of something I turn up to do on a regular basis?
- I told myself I was not forcing anyone to read my blog.
- My blog is my little corner of the internet. Its up to me what I choose to decorate my little corner with.
- Old blog posts are part of my blogging journey. If I compare them to my current posts I can see how far I have come on during my blogging journey. Old blog posts can be updated with new blog images, titles and words. When I come across an old blog post which makes me cringe I always think, ‘this is the worst I am ever going to feel about this blog post,’ and then I schedule time to refresh it.
- Just like writing books, I am never going write posts which appeal to everyone’s tastes.
- I have built up some valuable skills with blogging and it could lead to other things in the future.
- My blog is a part of me. Who cares what others think!
My mindset really shifted when in a job interview the team of people interviewing me asked me what I did in my spare time. In a moment of madness I told them I was a blogger. To my surprise they were impressed about my blogging achievements. According to them I had built up some valuable skills. That was it – all my blogging shame evaporated.
Have you ever felt blog shame? How do you deal with it?