How To Not Feel Embarrassed About Your Blog #Blogging #Bloggers

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One of the things I have struggled over the years with is showing my blog to people who are not in my creative life. I used to cringe and shrivel up inside when I had to show someone my blog. It was like a form of torture.

Looking back I was more bothered about people’s reactions to my blog and the amount of time I spent writing my posts. So I’d play my blogging down, avoid talking about it and wish the ground would open up when someone asked to see what I blogged about.

I think people’s initial reactions to me being a blogger back in 2014 fuelled my blogging shame. After a lot of awkward looks, someone asking me whether a blog was an online site where I just posted photos of myself and several concerned glances from older relatives I decided to hide the fact I had a blog.

Blogging shame can take many forms.

It can creep up on you when you read one of your old posts. A shiver goes down your spine as you whisper, ‘did I really blog about dating tips for mythological creatures?’ (Yes, I wrote a post on that subject and even though I don’t like to admit it has been one of my all time popular posts). 

It can also get mixed up with blog comparison syndrome. You come across a beautiful looking blog and before you know it you are comparing it to your own. The sight of your own blog brings on a multitude of negative feelings. ‘Why does my blog look so drab?’ you find yourself moaning to an uninterested loved one.

Blog embarrassment is actually a bit silly when you start to look at it properly. Blogs are designed to be read by different people, they’re not meant to be hidden away and only read by a chosen few.

I managed to work on my blog embarrassment. This is how:

  • I reminded myself that my blog is an extension of me. It is a download of what is going on inside my head so it’s basically me, Lucy, in blog form.
  • I put my heart and soul into my blog so I told myself I should be proud of it. Surely I should be proud of something I turn up to do on a regular basis?
  • I told myself I was not forcing anyone to read my blog.
  • My blog is my little corner of the internet. Its up to me what I choose to decorate my little corner with.
  • Old blog posts are part of my blogging journey. If I compare them to my current posts I can see how far I have come on during my blogging journey. Old blog posts can be updated with new blog images, titles and words. When I come across an old blog post which makes me cringe I always think, ‘this is the worst I am ever going to feel about this blog post,’ and then I schedule time to refresh it.
  • Just like writing books, I am never going write posts which appeal to everyone’s tastes.
  • I have built up some valuable skills with blogging and it could lead to other things in the future.
  • My blog is a part of me. Who cares what others think!

My mindset really shifted when in a job interview the team of people interviewing me asked me what I did in my spare time. In a moment of madness I told them I was a blogger. To my surprise they were impressed about my blogging achievements. According to them I had built up some valuable skills. That was it – all my blogging shame evaporated.

Have you ever felt blog shame? How do you deal with it?

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23 thoughts on “How To Not Feel Embarrassed About Your Blog #Blogging #Bloggers

  1. Hi Lucy, love this read. When I first started blogging (a year ago) I was a bit embarrassed to tell certain people but got over that quickly. NOw I have business cards and hand them out. Do I have no shame!! Thanks

  2. Fab post Lucy! I agree with all your points and think we should all celebrate our blogging achievements. I used to feel much the same about my blog and the time I spent blogging, reading and commenting on other blogs, but now I know it’s a part of me. Well done!!

    1. Hey Carmen. I did exactly the same thing, kept it quiet from my family and friends for ages. I even hid behind my blog name and didn’t use my real name. But I am glad I have come out of the ‘blogging closet’. Good luck with your blogging journey

  3. I totally get this, given that when I first started, I didn’t even know what a blog was! But yes, it is indeed an extestion of us!!!!!!
    You have done amazingly with your blog Lucy! We wouldn’t have it any other way!

  4. 100% agree with all of this. I write for me firstly. My main aim with blogging is to enjoy it, so naturally I’m going to want write about things I enjoy. As you quite rightly say, who cares if several people don’t enjoy it 👍🏻

  5. I do think it’s an extension of me and sort of a diary.

    I was the opposite. I was so excited about a bunch of awards I won at Open Salon, I overshared. Mistakes were made!! Now I don’t say much at all. Most of my closest friends have never even looked at it.

  6. Great post! I’m always amazed when I finally do tell a few friends or relatives about it. They read like 1 or 2 posts and then I never get a comment again. It’s funny that way. I’ll have someone from another continent think it’s the best thing since sliced bread but to have a friend read it consistently, I feel like it’s a chore for them. I don’t know, maybe it’s my own insecurities. Anyway, great post!

    1. Totally–I try so hard to just never assume any of my friends and family are actually going to read a post. It shouldn’t be a chore for them and I don’t want them to feel that way. But it is interesting that some people, a world away, feel connected in this way, but others who know me in real life don’t. You’re definitely not alone.

  7. You know, I worry about telling people about my blog at work because I thought maybe they’d think I was trying to brag about myself. Like telling them about it was selling them a new set of encyclopedias they didn’t need. But, similar to your experience, I’ve found that my fear is unfounded. People seem to want to know me in this way and as long as I don’t say, ‘Hey, did you see my latest blog post?” or “How come you’re not reading all my posts??” most seem glad to actually enjoy posts when they do read them. No expectations. No attachments. If they don’t know about it, how can they become part of my community, and I a bigger part of theirs? (That’s what I try and tell myself.)

  8. Oh my, never though of it as embarrassment!! I just keep my blogging and writing away from people I know here. No problem with the wider world, although initially I was a tad nervous/ That was down to being new and looking at established blogs thinking I was too late to the party. I find real life friends don’t understand blogging, can’t imagine someone they know writing books, never mind having a social presence.

    Is that embarrassment though? I always looked at it as why would I want them to know. Oddly my sons friends know more about my social media presence and a few even follow me. Must try YA fiction lol

    But real people here knowing I write? No thank you very much !!!!!

  9. There’s a lot of skills involved with blogging that are transferable to many jobs! I don’t have blog embarrassment but perhaps envy of other people’s blogs sometimes. I’m still relatively new to the blogging world so I have much to learn.

  10. I don’t tell people I know for more personal reasons (I can’t seem to train friends not to tag me and/or Husband when sharing a post, in spite of repeated reminders including the word anonymous) but even the ones who do know frequently have trouble understanding the difference between a blog and a really fancy facebook page… but only mine, somehow? Because I know they read other blogs, they just refer to them as “websites.” Maybe I’m using the wrong font…

  11. I don’t feel shame, Lucy, but I do keep my blog a secret from anyone at work. They don’t even know I write, let alone blog. It probably doesn’t matter, but it does make me feel interesting 😉

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