That magical moment when you decide NOT to quit writing #writing #writers

This is such a magical moment in the life of a writer and it warrants a blog post.

Being a writer means that you will probably experience quite a few of these special moments during your career.

Some of us writers are lucky enough to endure what I call the ‘I quit / I’m not quitting’ revolving door  which basically means on a regular basis (monthly / weekly / every couple of days) we go through the ‘I’m giving up / no I am not giving up’ motions. This is BAU (business as usual) to some of us.

Events leading up to the magical moment where you decide NOT to quit may include:

  • Some writer suffering – general insecurities, nagging doubts about whether your writing is any good, asking yourself whether it’s worth it, a lack of confidence and painful bouts of writer’s block.
  • An emotional outpouring – tears, snotty nose, sobbing etc.
  • An email outpouring to writing friend – long drawn out email listing out all of your writing frustrations for the past 12 months. Some of us just send through a detailed spreadsheet of all our issues. A good writer friend will never tell you to give up and will just offer sensible advice.
  • The ‘I am going to quit and do something else’ pipe dream – after happily ignoring all advice from the writing friend you move onto ‘quitting’. The thought of quitting feels so good, like a huge weight is being lifted off your shoulders. Cue the smiles, winks and “I am so over this writing lark” comments to uninterested loved ones. Now you can crack on with a less stressful and more rewarding hobby such as growing watercress out of hand painted egg shells. You make a ‘knee jerk reaction’ shopping expedition and happily buy (waste a lot of money) on new hobby equipment (cress seeds, brushes, coloured paints, eggs), reassuring yourself that your writing hobby has been binned.
  • The ‘I can’t live without my writing’ realisation – it soon dawns on you that you can’t give up writing, you are a slave to it! Your attempts at another hobby failed miserably (a loved one laughed at your hand painted egg shells perhaps or asked you whether your children had painted them). You can’t stop thinking about writing, its like a form of self torture, stories start to fly round and round in your head and your old characters shout your name like long lost friends.

Cue the magical moment!

Its a magical moment because:

  •  In heroic fashion you wipe away your tears, wipe your snotty nose, stand tall and with gritted teeth say to yourself “I am not quitting!” and “you won’t beat me!” – maybe even with a clenched fist!
  •  You attack your writing with a new energy and vigour. You feel like an eager newbie writer again.
  •  You feel elated because you are back and you are not a quitter!
  •  All your past writing problems no longer seem as big and some even seem solvable
  •  Hope is restored
  •  All writing dreams are pencilled back in!
  •  The sun comes out in Writing Land!

I love this (weekly) moment 🙂

Happy writing readers!

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47 thoughts on “That magical moment when you decide NOT to quit writing #writing #writers

  1. I’ve never thought about not writing, I think my brain would explode if I didn’t do at least a few lines everyday, but after a sad situation with a book that got me an agent, and then a year of that agent shopping the book around and lots of nice feedback but no actual publishing as it wasn’t what people were looking for at that time, I did think of never letting any of my work leave the house again. That was ten years ago, and three novels have been written and then disposed of since then. I might just possibly let this one out of the house, if it behaves itself 😉

      1. I need to ask other people their secrets 😉 The work I can do, but dealing with crippling self doubt, less so. Kafka is my hero, he burned more than he allowed people to read, I should probably change heroes!

  2. Lol – another great post 😀

    “Now you can crack on with a less stressful and more rewarding hobby such as growing watercress out of hand painted egg shells,” you say. Or defuse bombs with nothing but a tea spoon and a band aid, I might add.

    Oh, and when you shake your fist crying out, “you won’t beat me,” may I suggest that you add, “Fools!” somewhere in there? It makes it so much more rewarding, in my experience. “I will crush you” also works well.

  3. I’ve had this magical moment less and less lately. A shame really, because there’s something awesome about the whole clench-your-teeth-and-shake-your-fist, but I’m glad that on the other hand it means I’m more confident in my writing. No, my writing is still not gold all the time (actually, it’s gold like 2% of the time) but at least I keep doing it. I know I’ll end up writing anyway, even if I have a long break or nothing even slightly decent comes out in ages.

      1. UGH! Sometimes the best thing to do is step away from writing for a week or two, sometimes longer. Pushing yourself to “perform” isn’t the right method for every individual.

  4. Thankfully, I haven’t taken up painting eggs, but I have certainly had these bouts of insecurities and doubts, leading to thoughts of leaving writing. But coming back to writing is oh-so-good, and I rediscover why I fell in love with it. It’s a turbulent love affair, that’s for sure.

  5. Cue the magical moment… and an inspiring soundtrack to go along with it. 😀 I can just see the music swelling to a strong point as you wipe your eyes and nose, stand up and say, “I will not quit!”

  6. Not writing would be like no longer breathing. I could never quit; it’s embedded in my soul. And you shouldn’t either. Matter of fact, have you ever considered taking your funniest posts and creating an ebook? For 99 cents writers could laugh for hours. Not only would it be great exposure for you and your blog, but you’d start building an audience now. Just a thought to recharge your writing batteries should they run low on juice. 🙂

  7. It happens a lot. Writing is speculative in nature, we may never see a profit, and we’re usually our own boss when it comes to our writing, thus we inevitably give ourselves continuous extensions without firing ourselves.

  8. I will not quit! I hear you, my friend. Let’s keep at this writing business, and shake our fists at the doubts and suffering!
    🙂 btw, Do people really grow watercress out of hand painted egg shells?

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