When I am not writing my debut novel I like to transform into a ‘Creative Agony Aunt.’
I help troubled writers resolve matters of the heart using their writing skills. If you missed last week’s post please click here.
My qualifications for being a ‘Creative Agony Aunt’ are:
- I like to talk a lot.
- I like to give advice on things which I don’t know much about.
- I consider myself to be a very creative person. (sigh!)
- I care about my readers.
Here is the email from this week’s troubled Blondewritemore reader:
I think I might be a writer. For years I have ignored my love of words. I told myself writing wasn’t for me. Lately I have started to question who I am.
I like to write stuff in private and it feels so good. This is what I want to do.
I am worried about the reactions from those around me when I break the news to them that I enjoy a spot of creative writing.
Is this normal to experience these feelings?
A frustrated dark-haired reader
Hello there frustrated dark-haired reader
Yes it’s all normal. When you come out as a writer you go through a number of stages. Let me explain:
This is where you start to question your identity as a non-writer. In your head you start to ask yourself “is this really me?” and “am I really a non-writer?”
Everyday you will find yourself longing for a white piece of paper and a pencil. Coffee shops and bookshops will start to entice you in. Characters will dance in front of your eyes and ideas for plots wake will you at 3am.
Again and again you question yourself “why am I thinking like this?” and then one day whilst standing in a shop queue it will hit you. “Oh my goodness I think I might be a writer!”
2. Internal Acceptance
This is where you stop questioning yourself and accept the fact that you are a writer. A creative life is calling you. Every time you look in the mirror you find yourself saying “I am a writer!”
This is a huge step for you in becoming a proper writer.
You will then start to feel worried about how people around you will react. Telling someone that you are into creative writing is not easy. Creative writing conjures up so many different things in the minds of non-writers.
I think you are at this stage my friend.
3. Supportive friends
This stage is where you seek out some supportive friends to tell first.
Sometimes its easier to admit “I am a writer” first to a circle of close friends then it is a loved one or parents.
Supportive friends will give you a hug, tell you that they always knew you were wordy and that they would love to read some of your future stories. Cherish these friends.
Unsupportive friends will laugh or tease. This may set you back a couple of steps but don’t give up.
4. Loved ones
Telling loved ones is not as bad as you think it will be. Be prepared for a wide range of reactions. As I have said before creative writing can mean different things to some people.
Here are a selection:
- “You are going to be the next J.K. Rowling”
- “Are you feeling alright love?”
- “Does this mean you are into Amateur Dramatics as well?”
- “Isn’t Facebook enough for you?”
- “You have always had a way with words”
- “A bloke at work wrote a book…never read it”
5. The Change
This is the stage where you start to morph into a proper writer.
Your coffee intake will increase, your notebook collection will dramatically grow over the course of a week and you will find yourself staring into space a lot. You will start to consider setting up a blog so that you can talk to other writers and you will start daydreaming about bumping into literary agents in the frozen aisle of your local supermarket.
You will experience joy and elation as you start to write. There is no more secrecy and life feels good!
I hope you reach stage 5 my friend. Its not easy but I think you will get there.
Your Creative Agony Aunt
Next week this creative agony aunt helps a brunette writer come to terms with her first ever Steampunk dream.