10 Things To Expect When Your Loved One Decides To Become A Writer Like You #Writer #NaNoWriMo

 

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This is an interesting situation and can really ruffle your creative feathers.

  1. Your loved one’s announcement about deciding to write a book will come as a shock to you. As you congratulate them you will have to deal with the little child like voice in your head saying ‘I thought I was the ONLY writer in the house’.
  2. At first you will aim to be a supportive fellow writer. For the first few days you will find yourself sat beaming with pride as they type away. Sigh!
  3. This wears off pretty quick. You will soon start to find yourself turning into the green-eyed writer monster. You will start looking for ways to make writing difficult for them like running the vacuum over the carpet around their feet, turning on the TV too loud and asking them random questions whilst they work.
  4. Their new-found love of writing will coincide with one of your painful episodes of writer’s block. This is a given.
  5. Your emotions will have been fraught before your loved one announced their intention to write a book. Now that they are writing / you are not writing you will be an emotional mess.
  6. It will be hard to review their work because it will, in your mind, sound far better than yours. Cue the pained expression on your face as you read their writing.
  7. They will come up with amazing ideas for plots and stories. You will be left looking glumly at your work.
  8. You will become obsessed with their word count, as well as your own. You will find yourself asking them for an update every half hour.
  9. You might find they will make irritating comments like ‘this book writing lark is easy’ and ‘how hard can it be?’  – You will need to find a way of calmly nodding and walking away. As opposed to unleashing hell and giving their dinner to the dog.
  10. When your loved one gets bored with writing and decides to go back to watching TV box sets and sports you will let out a big sigh of relief. You may go a bit OTT on giving them attention. In your head spoiling them is their reward for getting off YOUR creative patch!

Happy writing with your loved one!

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30 thoughts on “10 Things To Expect When Your Loved One Decides To Become A Writer Like You #Writer #NaNoWriMo

  1. Don’t be discouraged, and don’t let yourself fall into the trap of making excuses as to why you’re not focusing on your own writing. Also, don’t begrudge your husband his creative surge – little can sour a relationship faster than jealousy and pettiness. Be happy for him, or at least fake it well if you can’t manage those feelings just yet, and hope that he will be equally supportive when you find your groove.

    As for the lack of inspiration… I recently attended several great writers panels at a local convention, one of which was focused on writing with the muse/inspiration. The thing that most people don’t realize is that we make our own inspiration. You have to write through the lows as well as the highs.

    And while, yes, it can be very hard to find time to write when you have a family and a busy work schedule, if you ever want to get to the point where writing is your job, then you have to carve out time for yourself, even when you’re dog-tired and fed up.

    If you let life, family, work, and lack of inspiration get in the way of your writing, you’ll always find an excuse ready when you stare at that empty page.

  2. Can’t find any way to contact you other than in a comments box. I wanted to ask you if I could tag you to take part either in a “Writing Process Blog Tour” and/ or a “Meet My Character Blog Tour”. Each of them would involve you doing a post answering four questions about particular aspects of your writing. If you’re interested in doing this, perhaps you’d like to send me an email message via “contact” at the top of the homepage on my blog and I’ll reply with more details.

  3. This one hit a little too close to home. The hubby got it into his head that he might like to try writing some non-fiction as way of establishing more credibility for himself and business and not simply for the joy of reaching readers. In my mind I thought, “how dare you attempt to tarnish the nobility of my dream! How would you like it if I also found a way to turn your dreams into ash?” while on the outside I said, “that’s great honey, how can I help?”

    Luckily for our marriage, he was distracted by something else shiny (either that or he knows me well enough to recognize he’d narrowly avoided an emotional minefield).

    1. Oh my goodness – my husband did exactly the same thing! He got distracted too – sigh! Our marriage was saved. It’s so good I am not alone in this situation – happy Friday!

  4. Our writing relationship has a few twists. It is my daughter pounding away on the keyboard and there is an ocean separating us so it would be hard to create distractions. What we write is very different so as I crawl along and she signs a three book contract, I must remember that as the mother it is my job to be supportive. Actually, I am thrilled she has found something that she is so happy with. 🙂

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