The first time you consciously tell people you are a writer can be daunting. Here is how the build up to this momentous situation can pan out:
Stage One – Questioning Yourself. This stage is where you start to question yourself. People have been telling you for years that you are ‘wordy’ (i.e. good with words), it feels like you have had your head stuck in a book all of your life and more worryingly there are some imaginary people living inside your head – could you be a writer? Gasp! Instant reaction from you is NO! A writer? Definitely not! On the verge of insanity maybe, with the voices in your head, but not one of those weird writers.
Stage Two – Denial. This is the stage where you try to bury your creative thoughts at the back of your mind and deny that you are a writer. During this stage you will find yourself drawn to blank sheets of paper, notebooks, writing long and elaborate messages in birthday, Christmas, Sympathy and Valentines cards, looking at the book charts, wearing tweed clothing, starting a secret blog and coffee. Even though you will be drawn to all of these things you will constantly be telling yourself that you are NOT a writer.
Stage Three – Doing it in secret. This is the stage where you give in to those creative urges and you find yourself writing in secret. When loved ones are not looking you sneak upstairs and hammer out a few hundred words. It is during this stage that you may set up a secret blog and start blogging under a different name. The voices in your head are getting louder and you need to do something with them. However you cannot bring yourself to admit to everyone that you are a writer. Instead you write in secret and purchase some tweed outfits which you stash under your bed.
Stage Four – Socialization with others like you. This is the stage where you feel the need to make contact with others who are like you. Before you commit to this creative life you get the urge to meet other like-minded souls. During this stage you will reach out to other writers on blogs, via Twitter and in coffee shops. Meeting another writer for the first time can be quite a powerful experience. There will be a lot of staring, some social media stalking and an emotional outpouring from you. Expect to gush phrases like “oh my goodness you are….like me!” and “do the voices in your head talk to you in the shower too?”
Stage Five – Disclosure. You have been blogging in secret for months, you are half-way through a novel and the voices in your head have turned into fictional characters. It is now time to disclose to the world that you are a writer. You have been worried about people’s reactions and have read some horror stories online. After doing a lot of research on coming out as a writer you finally pluck up the courage to tell your loved one. It is not as bad as you think. Your loved one grunts and carries on watching the sport on TV. You decide to tell a close friend who tells you that you have always been ‘wordy’ so it is no surprise. It is over. You are now a writer. Cue the pride and strong feelings of elation. You race upstairs and retrieve all the items of tweed from under your bed. Squealing with literary excitement you throw on a couple of things to get you in the mood. Sigh!
After a few months of serious writing this emotional revelation will soon feel like a walk in the park..
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