It is terrible when a much loved fictional character dies in the book that you are reading. The grief that you go through can be painful, emotionally draining and can last a few chapters.
If loved ones don’t tread carefully with their remarks during this challenging time they could find themselves with a cold stare, a strop or even an emotional outburst.
This blog post is a list of the things NOT to say to a reader, who is distraught over the death of their much loved fictional character.
For noting: I have also added some thoughts from the reader on hearing these inflammatory comments. I tried to put myself in the reader’s shoes and jotted down my own responses.
The more I got into this role play the more irritated I felt by the end of this list. My poor loved one could not understand why I was a little prickly with him…sigh!
So here we go, 10 things NOT to say to a reader who is struggling with death of a much loved character:
- “Have a cup of tea as it will make you feel better!” – I don’t want a cup of tea I want the author to rewrite the novel WITHOUT my favourite character dying!
- “Your character never existed!” – An infuriating comment. They did exist in my head!
- “It was just a story” – No that book was like a second life to me!
- “I never thought [enter deceased character’s name] was realistic anyway?” – I had a huge crush on them so they must have been realistic! What are you saying about my choice in character crushes? *Followed by eye roll*
- “I am sure there will be other characters for you to become a fan of” – No there will NOT be another character like [enter decreased character’s name], they were one in a million. *Followed by loud wail*
- “Why don’t you go do something else?” – No, I want to sit and wallow in grief on the sofa whilst making my way through a box of chocolates!
- “You don’t see me acting like this after reading one of my spy thrillers!” *eye roll and loud sigh*
- “Can you keep the noise down I am trying to watch the sport on TV” – Infuriating! How can they sit and watch sport on TV when I am going through the five stages of grief over a fictional character?
- “Pull yourself together!” – I can’t pull myself together, I am grieving!
- “You didn’t stop going on about that character so I am glad they met an unfortunate end!” – *gasp, followed by evil stare, followed by…give plate of loved one’s freshly cooked tea to a passing pet*
Have a great day!
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