Getting Back on Your Writing Bike Makes You Stronger #writers #writing

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I have fallen off my writing bike a couple of times during these past few weeks.

All sorts of writing related issues can send you flying off your writing bike; crisis of confidence, rejection, fear of failure etc.

Coming off can result in you storming off out of the living room, slamming a door, having a hissy fit, texting writer friends a long-winded account of your writing situation (heavy usage of either weeping emojis and angry faced emojis) or even threatening to jack it all in.

Getting back on your writing bike requires strength and bravery.

Here are some recent situations from my writing life:

I made the mistake of reading through my 52k word unfinished first draft. Instead of doing happy star jumps I found myself cringe with embarrassment, scream and go hide under the bed.  So, I went and meditated for 10 minutes. This is my new approach to handling writer stress levels. Came back to my first draft feeling refreshed, relaxed and telling myself that things couldn’t be that bad. Read through some of the parts that had made me raise my eyebrows in horror earlier and…had to rush off to meditate for ANOTHER 10 minutes.

After I fell off my writing bike! I was embarrassed by my unfinished first draft. I didn’t want to carry on writing it.

I entered a writing competition a few months ago with something that could have been better. It wasn’t a quality entry. Deep down I knew this but instead I chose to start daydreaming about winning, visualising myself winning and writing out my winning acceptance speech. So when the ‘sorry you didn’t win’ email came through I rushed off to meditate for a good 20 minutes AND I filled 3 pages (both sides) of my new ‘Writer Diary’ (another new approach to dealing with writer stress. It is like a paper writer friend who is always there for me 24-7).

Despite the meditating and writer diary I fell off my writing bike! Not winning a writing competition made my demons tell me that it would be for the best if I just gave up.

I was doing some light reading on writing romantic comedy. In one article it listed out the top 10 problems and at no.1 was ‘when no one gets your humour’.  Cue the self-doubt demons. What if no one finds my romantic comedy novel funny?  I meditated for a good 20 minutes, filled out 5 pages (both sides) of my new ‘Writer Diary’ and had a large glass of wine.

Ten minutes later I fell off my writing bike! The fear of writing something not funny made me want to run away from my writing.

 

You will be glad to know that each of these situations led to a change in me. After each episode of falling off my writing bike I got back on and started writing again.

It has been hard to crawl back to my laptop however each time I have done it – I have felt a little bit stronger!

I have now finished my first draft and it feels great. There is a long road ahead of me but I feel I have accomplished something. If I had not climbed back on my writing bike I would not be here now.

So folks, if you fall off your writing bike this week, grit your teeth and get straight back on!

Meditating, frantically scribbling in a Writer Diary and drinking large glasses of wine are optional extras.

Have a fabulous week!

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58 thoughts on “Getting Back on Your Writing Bike Makes You Stronger #writers #writing

  1. Good to see you take it all well, don’t give up – change. Make yourself better all the time! As for no-one liking your rom com stories, let me just point something out here. Who has won funniest blog two years running and how many likes / followers does Roxy have on Wattpad?
    Stop doubting yourself Lucy! You’re awesome! 🙂

      1. Always – just don’t lose faith Lucy! I keep saying that Roxy should be a TV series, you’re definitely a rom com writing starlet!

  2. I find your writing funny for one. I too am struggling at the 52K mark. I’ve written the major scenes (a fight, a romance and the opening chapter) now I have to ‘fill in’ the rest and find new situations for my group to deal with. It is a sequel to my earlier book so I have the additional ‘is it is as good as the first book’ pressure to deal with. I decided to have a week off last week now I’m struggling to get back into it.

  3. I’m so glad you got back on your writing bike. You would leave us bereft, had you not. I agree with the above comments. You are funny, you definitely have a gift, and your series on your blog have been very popular. We want to read you. (Definitely not as dirty as it sounds!)
    Don’t give up, you can never give up.

  4. Tsk, tsk. You forgot a step. You fortify yourself with wine first, then attempt to read through the first draft, followed by a second round of fortification.

    Take comfort that you got a rejection note back. Even when it is a form letter, that usually means that it was at least briefly considered. I’ve not heard back at all in some cases. Just remember, that short contest piece was a separate piece of writing submitted to an extremely narrow audience which may or may not be at all representative of the potential audience for your larger work.

  5. Yes! You finished!! Be proud. I love the idea of a writing diary. I totally need that. Thank you!!

    I can’t wait to buy your book when it’s ready. You make me laugh every week. I totally get your humor. And..I am another Lucy beta reader wanna-be if you ever want to send your ms across the pond (you know, email😉).

    Congratulations!

  6. It’s hard not to dream about winning a competition, but reminding oneself that probably several hundred, if not a couple of thousand people entered that competition, is the best way of putting things into perspective when you don’t win. It’s so easy to get dispirited. I know the feeling all too well D:

  7. Great post, Lucy; I can definitely empathize. Just think of the falling off (or wobbling) as an opportunity to have some needed refreshment (as you indicate here, wine may be the preferred beverage!), step away from the bike and stretch, and hopefully come back to the manuscript/bike feeling reinvigorated. On the other hand, I was happy to read that you were pursuing your dream of publishing a novel. Dreams deferred tend to lead to a lot of regret. Anyway, happy writing!

  8. The 3Cs, Lucy. Or if you’re a grape aficionado add Chianti as the fourth. That’s all you need. That and a soft landing every time you come off. Personally I think you’ll do very well and you’ll get a sale from this little corner of Sarf Londin, obvs. And as one who’s been there and still has the bruised tush, getting your arms round the whole package is awesome. It really is the most difficult thing. Now, it’s 14 years of editing and you’ll be away… ha! Joke. Sorry, not funny. Another round of the 3Cs. Maybe champagne as the fourth?

  9. Reading an unfinished first draft is asking for mental anguish. I’ve been guilty of this myself but instead of walking away, I end up editing it and I haven’t pushed myself to move on to write the rest the story. Pace yourself and keep at it.

  10. Reblogged this on Suzie Speaks and commented:
    Having doubts about your talents as a writer? Fallen off the writing bike? I loved this very honest post from Lucy… Please don’t comment or like my reblog, hop on over to Blonde Write More and share your thoughts there!

  11. I’m all for writing in a journal when those feelings bubble up.

    As far as falling off the writing bike, I’ve gone through those situations. Recently, I made the choice to stop writing a serial because I felt it wasn’t going anywhere. I just felt it was too much info-dumping and I didn’t know how to fix it. Right now, I feel like I’m wobbling on my bike with this short story I’m working on. It’s taken me weeks to write it. I’ve gone through different beginnings and endings. I just don’t know if it was meant to be written. But I’m determined to write this story, no matter how many times I fall off the bike.

  12. I recommend keeping going and learning that first drafts are usually rubbish, as are the second, third, fourth (carry on as far as you need to make you feel better). When I cringe at my first draft, I tell myself that I will make it better. When I cringe at the second draft I tell myself the same thing and so on (hopefully not ad infinitum). It’s not the ideal way of working, but if it means getting to a book worth reading, I’ll take it over not writing the book in the first place.

  13. I think the most important thing is that you kept getting back on the writer-bike! (I love that by the way.) I’m about halfway through the first draft of my novel (YA fiction), but I’ve found myself having a lot of the same doubts. I also journal about it sometimes (great minds!), and remind myself that it’s just the first draft! If I keep nitpicking and editing what I already have, I’ll never finish. So, I climbed back onto the seat and finished a scene I was really pleased with the other day. Go us!

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