How To Accept Some People Will Never Understand Your Creative Life #writers

This is a tough one to accept and it has taken me a long time to get my head around this.

If you are a creative person there will be some people in your life who will never:

  • Understand why you spend hours creating stuff that is unlikely to go anywhere.
  • Share your creative enthusiasm for your creative projects.
  • Understand why you are cartwheeling around the garden after receiving one tiny bit of positive feedback.
  • Ask to read or listen to your work.
  • Get your weird and wonderful creative ways.
  • Be able to relate to the buzz you get inside when your creative work is being shared or liked.

These are the ones who say stuff like “I don’t understand why you do all that writing!” or “have you just spent your whole day writing…why….are you depressed?”

Just because they don’t get your creative life doesn’t mean they are bad or cruel. They just don’t understand.

No matter how many hours you spend trying to explain your creative tendencies or excitedly telling them about your latest project, they will still cast you that puzzled or horrified look.

It can sting a bit when you realise that not everyone is as goofy happy as you about your creative projects.

The important thing to remember is that it’s actually ok for people to not understand your creative ways. If we were all the same life would be pretty dull.

Here are some things to consider when accepting that some people will never understand your creative life:

  • As a creative person you will always be a mystery to some people. This is actually a good thing and you should always strive to remain a mystery. Keeps people guessing about what you will do next.
  • Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. You can’t force others to like what you are doing or have created.
  • Each one of us has different talents and skills to offer the world. As Walt Whitman said we are all here to ‘contribute a verse’.  Being creative (either through writing, blogging, podcasting etc) is your way of contributing a verse. These people are also contributing a verse in their own special way.
  • If you are a true creative person (i.e. not doing it for the money or future fame) then you will know that your creative side is a huge part of who you are as a person. It’s not something you can change or switch off and anyway why would you?
  • According to this article Neuroscience confirms that highly creative people think and act differently than the average person. Our brains are hardwired in a unique way! This means that some people are going to think we are from another planet.
  • We are addicted to the thrill of creating stuff and its a hard addiction to break. To the outsider our creative addiction can look pretty scary.
  • Being misunderstood comes with the territory of leading a creative life.
  • There is a place in the world for all of us.

The sooner you accept that not everyone in your life is going to understand your creative life the better!

So, stop wasting time on trying to make them understand why you spent the entire day rewriting your fourth chapter with only a couple of breaks for coffee and biscuits.

Move on and focus your energies on creating!

Have a fabulous day creative people!

Thought I would finish with a quote from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic.

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29 thoughts on “How To Accept Some People Will Never Understand Your Creative Life #writers

  1. I know this feeling well, I get weird looks and laughter too. But it’s who I am and I often find it hard to deal with and don’t share much of my creativity with those around me. Hope you have a great day and week Lucy 😃

  2. Creative people totally are different, and a good thing too. The trick is to keep up the difference. Where would the world be if Einstein had said “I think I’ll just keep working in the patent office” or Tolkien had said “I might just stick to marking exam papers”? You’re right, though – hardly anybody understands! (sigh)

  3. I DO need to remember this: “The important thing to remember is that it’s actually ok for people to not understand your creative ways.” So thank you for that. This post hits home. *sigh* We are so misunderstood. ❤

  4. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about people who do not under the creative ways. Most often, I find it best not to go into much explanation of why I spend hours with my characters in my head unless I am with similar-thinking friends.

  5. the post’s seemed itself a port of “inspiration”; working as a stimulus to us writers. i believe, writers’re not so different that average people cos… once they’ve also been average. what makes ’em writer’s… their “passion”, “courage” & in-different thinking”, perhaps… sometimes, we’re all forgotten in this so-called un-forbidden world. and when average people reflect something “un-indifferent” to us, we feel quite hectic, cos… it makes us feel like: “is this our life? — so full of bizzare or the dilemma of life?” — and the ans. is… yes!

    i happen to know, a writer has no friend, but his life’s always full of a plethora of enemies. i don’t get this why, but whatever it is, may be, that’s what makes us writers productive: “Haters Love, Undisguised! xoxo very nice post. i learned and resonated allot of creative and valuable of things from this post! great work here!

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