10 Things My Creative Friends Have Taught Me #Monday Blogs #BloggingGals #AmWriting


2016 was the year I started listening to those around me. After spending the first part of the year dismissing advice and top tips from my creative friends (as I thought I knew best… sigh!) I thought I would do something different in the second half of last year.

So I listened, took advice and almost immediately started squeaking “oh my goodness you were right!”

As you can imagine readers I received a lot ofΒ eye rolls last year and the πŸ™„ emoji was well used.

Here are 10 things my creative friends have taught me:

  1. As a romance writer I should read Jane Green. For months I pulled a face at this and claimed her books wouldn’t interest me. After reading one of her books I am now totally hooked. I now hold the belief that Jane Green is a literary legend at writing romance and my creative friends look away…muttering.
  2. Adding in a ‘read more’ line into my blog posts will improve my blog stats. For months I shook my head, pulled a face and mumbled stuff under my breath about how I know best when it comes to blogging. After two weeks of adding in a ‘read more’ line I can say that my stats have improved significantly – sigh!
  3. You don’t need to blog everyday. You can achieve more by blogging less. For months I waved my creative friends on and told them I knew best (whilst frantically writing a zillion blog posts). Last July after forcing myself to listen to my creative friends I reduced my posts to 3 a week. It transformed my life. My blog stats actually improved when I blogged less. I was also able to write more of my books.
  4. Saying negative stuff about my writing results in a word count punishment. They warned me about saying negative stuff about my writing and….I didn’t listen! Β When they first started dishing out word count punishments (after I wailed ‘I am the worst ever writer to have ever existed!’) I ended up writing my first draft super fast. Every time I said something negative – a message would appear ‘1000 words from you or else!’ I watch what I say now and the other day awarded myself a word count punishment because I knew my comment was negative.
  5. Don’t listen to inarticulate trolls who leave hurtful comments on my platforms. This was a biggie for me as I used to take everything to heart, despite my friends telling me to get a grip! My creative friends have helped me grow a thicker skin.
  6. Don’t listen to non-writers who make negative comments about my creative life or projects. There is a fabulous quote from BrenΓ© Brown ‘if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.’
  7. Star Wars does not need romance. I am still learning this one after being disappointed with the Star Wars series.
  8. Set challenging goals. They have taught me to aim high no matter what.
  9. Stop seeking external validation with writing. Still learning this one and this year will be about stopping this.
  10. It’s ok to be a creative person. The most important thing they have taught me is that it ok to be a creative person. I don’t need to hide or feel ashamed about what I do. It’s who I am!

I hope some of you will also find these useful.

I am so glad I started listening!

Much blonde love to my creative friends…

Have a great day!

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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❀️

58 thoughts on “10 Things My Creative Friends Have Taught Me #Monday Blogs #BloggingGals #AmWriting

  1. I am so glad I took the time to read this. I cheated myself at the end of last year by over scheduling my day and not leaving enough of life available to check in on my friend’s writing. Here’s to doing it right, 2017! So, tell me, what is this ‘read more’ line all about?

  2. Great lessons Lucy! I stopped posting multiple posts daily over a year ago and when I see my state my views were the same if not better, not worse!
    And as per #7…. I’m with you on that too… still don’t get Star WARS!
    After the #JusJoJan challenge I want to be more discipl8ned and try and set a couple of days a week to dedicate to actually writing … here’s hoping it happens!
    Luck and love!!! Xxx

  3. I really love the idea of word-count punishments for saying negative things about your writing. I think I’ll start doing that — and maybe point it out to some writerly friends xD It’s an odd form of self-love and perspective-changing, but I really like it!

    And that Brene quote… 😌 So true. There’s a tweet going around right now suggesting that non-creatives who say creativing isn’t a real job should be banned from the products of those creatives. It’s definitely extreme, but I don’t think there’s enough credit given to the rigor and hard work of artists.

  4. The idea of the word count punishment is really cool, but I’ll take it seriously only when the person sits next to me holding a knife in his hand ready to stab me! haha
    You are writing romance, that’s so awesome! The fantasy story I’m working on starts with a love story. I share my first draft in episodes on my blog. (I know it’s stupid) But my reader’s encouragement helps me to write better.

      1. Wow, that will be so awesome!! Thank you so much for that.
        Though I’m not a professional, just a 15 y.o Panda, I hope you like it. The title is Blue Watery Eyes!

  5. *cough*

    Wow, what amazing things you have learnt from what must be literary geniuses and amazing people, wow, if only I was one of them. I mean, punishments? Damn, that girl must be a right bitch😜

      1. Thanks! They were slightly boring this year. But I did see La La Land which was the big winner, so that was fun.
        If/when you take a writing break, go see it. Its wonderful πŸ˜€

  6. Sounds as if you’ve made excellent progress over 2016 πŸ˜‰ Keep up the good work. I’ve not thought about using the “read more” facility. In fact, I didn’t know there was one. So I went off to research it and found this https://codex.wordpress.org/Customizing_the_Read_More Now I’m even more confused than I was. Am sure it’s simple, although mostly my posts aren’t that long. Will study it further. As for the not posting so often, one of the reasons I’ve not visited your blog as often as I did, is that I couldn’t keep up with reading posts, so I stopped receiving email notifications from anyone who blogged every day, on the grounds that I would visit them when time allowed, which mostly it didn’t. Sad, as I love some of my daily bloggers, you included, but if you’ve cut it down to three times a week, then you won’t make my email inbox groan, so I can change my settings and you might hear from me more often! Just hope you haven’t unfollowed my blog, as my punishment.

  7. You do not need to blog every day. Really. I don’t blog as often as some but you really don’t need to blog daily (unless you want to, of course). πŸ™‚ Also, external validation is highly overrated. I’m an internal validation kind of gal. Wrote a whole post on it. (What’s this “read more” thing?)

    Never be ashamed of being a creative person, my dear. Never. ❀

  8. I will definitely be using this list.. πŸ™‚
    Being creative is the best, you enjoy what you do and thats all that matters! I love writing and seeing what stories my mind comes up with, happy writing!

    1. Ok if you go to your admin tool, open up a post. At the top near the ABC tick you will see a little square icon with two thick lines and some dotted lines in between. Click on that and then click on post. It will bring up a ‘read more’ line and forces readers to click on full post.

      1. And I’m at an age where I’m looking for an Imperial Stormtrooper and a Millenium Falcon…
        Please, no spoilers – I still haven’t seen it (hopefully tomorrow night)

  9. A great list, and I’m probably teaching you to suck eggs, but don’t forget to ensure you don’t get too stressed out by the stats. I see too many bloggers chasing the numbers rather than spending the time writing good quality posts. Most of them often throw in the towel when those numbers don’t materialise. The only stat I take most notice of is the one that tells me which of my posts have been viewed the most. That tells me which of the many topics I write about are proving the most popular.

  10. There is much to ponder here, since I’ve been on the daily post rollercoaster and it’s hurt the word count of my WiP. I needed to find this today, so thank the Blogging Gods that I stumbled into your little patch of heaven!

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