Why Sharing Your #NotSoPerfectWritingLife Helps Other Writers #WritersLife


Writing is not easy. If you have ever found yourself forcing out a few words, whilst listening to a crowd of negative voices in your head or staring miserably at 1567 glorious words you wrote yesterday, which now read like utter drivel, you will understand.

Social media doesn’t help. There are days when it feels like everyone else has the perfect writing life. They’ve exceeded their daily word count targets, planned a wonderful book marketing campaign, made contact with an interested agent and taken over every form of social media known to mankind…all before lunch.

You, on the other hand have not written anything since you woke up because you can’t find your favourite pen, the coffee machine is on the blink, you are still nursing an eight-day cold and the kids are running riot.

It’s on days like these when we need to read about other writers and their not so perfect writing lives. Their stories are smile inducing and seem to give you a much-needed virtual hug.

Sharing moments from our not so perfect writing lives is important and something we should all do. These moments help other writers in the following ways:

  1. Reading about another writer’s not so perfect writing life helps alleviate those crap feelings which we all get. The ones which usually start with ‘I must be the only writer who..’ 
  2. These moments makes us all smile and nod knowingly at our laptop screen. In view of the pain and suffering we all go through with our writing we can all do with a smile.
  3. Sharing stuff like this makes us feel like we’re not alone. We are in this together.
  4. Friendships are made when we share moments from our not so perfect writing lives. We can identify with other people going through similar episodes of pain and suffering.
  5. We are making art and the creation of any art is messy. It’s always good to look up and see you are not the only writer making a creative mess.
  6. Social media is not real life.
  7. Reading about not so perfect writing moments distracts us from comparing ourselves to other writers. We forget the ‘I could never write as something as good as her,’ and say things like ‘I love the way she likens her writer’s block to a bad case of constipation – so true!’
  8. Reading about another writer who is clearly having a tough day but is still carrying on can be more inspirational, than reading about a writer who has just got a publishing contract. This is when a not so perfect writing life moment becomes powerful. You think to yourself ‘blimey – if he’s still smiling and carrying on with his writing after ditching half his novel, I can struggle on with my first chapter.’

So, on the days when your writing sounds like something the three-year old next door would write, share the fact you are taking a break from it and are sat wrapped in a comforting blanket, watching Netflix whilst stuffing your face with chocolate. Share this not so perfect writing life moment! I guarantee there will be someone else in the world going through the same thing.

When your writer’s block is getting you down and you are sat behind the shed in the garden, with a glass of wine and a box of tissues, share this not so perfect writing life moment. There are other writers around the world sat behind their garden shed pouring themselves another large glass and toasting their absent creative muse.

When you have had more rejection emails than hot dinners in the past week and are now toasting marshmallows on a bonfire (made from wood and your draft novel) – share this not so  perfect writing life moment! There are other draft novel bonfires being lit all over the world. You are not alone.

Let’s use our not so perfect writing life moments to help others.

Have a great day!



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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions For Falling In Love Again is out in June 2019.

49 thoughts on “Why Sharing Your #NotSoPerfectWritingLife Helps Other Writers #WritersLife

  1. Well, I don’t know what happened to the rest of my comment, but I totally understand social media not helping. When I used to write on Wattpad, I felt like a terrible, horrible writer. Since I didn’t have over 100K reads on my stories and ads in them, I felt like a failure. However, once I moved to WordPress and Writing.com, I met writers who ACTUALLY shared their self-doubt moments, and they didn’t just brag about themselves. This is so true! We should be honest and share our doubts with fellow writers. It helps them know they are not alone.

  2. A dear friend of mine told me how much better she felt knowing I have a bad day! It’s said in the best possible way! She saw me as her motivational guru but struggled to ‘keep up’ with my enthusiasm. I now always blog/post on social media a balance of inspiration and ‘OMG I’ve burnt the dinner!’ X

  3. When I first started blogging about my life as a writer, I was criticised for being negative when describing my progress. This almost made me close down my blog, but I’m glad I didn’t. For I have since discovered so many people like me, who have more bad days than good. Very therapeutic that was…
    They say that we learn by our mistakes, so I suppose we can also learn from each others too!

  4. Thanks for the virtual hug, Lucy. I needed that. It’s a relief to know not every writer out there is superhuman. Have a great Monday 🙋🏻

  5. Preach! I find that whole ‘hey, I hit my wordcount target of 20,000 words today’ kind of bragging insufferable. What is the point of it? We’re all writing, editing, rewriting, redrafting and editing again. It doesn’t matter how many words you’ve written and since when was this a competition?! My best advice is to ignore these kind of tweets, I’m not sure what their motivation is, but a bit like selfies, they seem to be purely for the benefit of the person behind the screen 😉

  6. I do tend to shy away from sharing the struggles, mostly because I don’t want to come across as complaining, but you are right in that it is important for others to see that we are all in this together – especially on days that didn’t work out exactly as you might have wanted.

  7. Saturday I finished my first draft of a [longer] short story (wooohoooooo right?) but then yesterday I got totally discouraged, positive I should never write again.

    Feeling like I should be flying high for finishing the first draft, but now terrified of editing and considering putting it out there – yikes! It’s all crap in my current state of mind 😦

    In the pits here. And admitting it. It’s not all dreamy and adventure, you’re right.

    1. In the pits here too over my third draft. I feel the same – yuk! But good to know someone else feels the same way and I am not alone 👏🏻 Thanks for reading & keep going 👍🏻 We can both do this

  8. Share the struggle, I agree! I am struggling to get my last draft finished. I keep going back and finding more mistakes. 😦
    How is your third draft coming along?
    (Love you new blog look, by the way!)

  9. A total high five Lucy couldn’t agree more! I am learning every day and expect the art of writing continues to teach new tricks all the time. There is never a perfect piece of writing. One paragraph might nail it, but the rest of the chapter might need work. The secret is to keep trying, working to make your writing as good as it can be. Inspiring to be the best you can be. 🙂

  10. Resonance once again Lucy; I can go weeks and sometime months not getting anywhere; but then its counter balanced by intense writing that churns out a chapter every five days; not much so it sounds, but I do have school runs and other stuff to exist with! In the bleak times I use CBT strategies in that I don’t let it get under my skin. It’s OK not to write, just means the characters aren’t talking. If I force things then most of the words are rubbish and I feel that has a bigger impact on my mojo. I know when the time is right to write because it just hits me and I’m scrabbling for my iPad (portable) or PC (not portable). I feel things will change if I can get a publisher at some point because then it will seem real and not just me challenging me! I also have a yen to try Camp NaNo next month too. I have a project to finish and the calling is growing!

    Great post and really good to hear I’m not alone here!

  11. I’m currently in a post format my novel why did I ever start writing misery! Ha ha being a writer is a a pretty crazy occupation. I’m developing a love hate relationship with it. I used to go to the gym, laze about, now I write… Sometimes I miss the lazing about, and even miss going to the gym!

  12. Reblogged this on Alex R Carver and commented:
    I never considered the possibility that posting about the occasions when my writing journey hasn’t gone quite the way it’s supposed to (and occasionally when it’s gone totally tits up) could be a good thing. I’ll have to try and remember this, it’s some great advice.

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