Writer: Why You Need To Become Your Own Cheerleader #SundayBlogShare #ASMSG

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Being a writer isn’t easy. Not only do you have to create, write, edit, revise, shelve, rewrite, deliberate, proof read, format, publish and promote but you also have to learn to cheer yourself on at every stage. *Gasp*.

You have to become your own cheerleader and this is a tough one to accept. 

When you first enter the literary world, with a huge smile, a head full of stories and a strong urge to connect with other writers on Twitter, you don’t envisage any dark creative times, as there will almost certainly be a crowd of loved ones, close friends, writing acquaintances and loyal readers to cheer you on. *Sigh*

What you come to realise….over time… is that supporting a writer is not an easy task. Not only does this magical human being have to possess bags of patience for when you are busy road testing different genres, writing a lot of rubbish, frantically deleting everything you have ever written and being riddled with self-doubt, they also need A LOT of time on their hands! A writer can take years to produce something which is ‘readable’ and decades to produce something which is ‘amazing.’

So it’s no surprise that the support from those around you fluctuates and sometimes fizzles away (particularly in the writing absolute rubbish years). People have their own lives to lead and are often in bed fast asleep at 2 A.M. when you are sobbing into your third draft over the writing desk and pouring yourself another glass of sherry.

When you take on the huge task of writing a novel there are so many hurdles to overcome. Writing the opening paragraph of your story sounds easy enough but this can turn into a week-long challenge for some of us. It’s not like your problems stop after the first draft either, my goodness I used to think once I had finished the first draft it would be plain sailing from there onwards – LOL! How I laugh now!

So with so many obstacles to face it’s unrealistic to think there will be someone cheering you on through every challenging moment.

Other writers will give you some support and can often relate to your frustrations around weak characters, negative feedback and no one retweeting your latest piece of flash fiction but they have their own projects to work on.

The realisation of you being on your own with this writing journey can be quite scary and it can sting a little. You stop typing and stare at the 7 little words you have managed to force out. This latest bout of writer’s block has been bad. You look round, desperate to see a small crowd of pyjama clad family members waving banners and urging you to work through the pain. Sadly there is no one there to support you. Even the dog can’t bring himself to wake up. 

So, you have to learn to become your own cheerleader. Now I am not proposing you squeeze yourself into a little dress, grab some pom poms and start cartwheeling around the living room, chanting your own name – but please let me know if you do this. You can guest blog on BlondeWriteMore about it (photos will be essential).

What I am saying is you need to give yourself lots of encouragement and a lot of whoop whoops!  Where would we all be without some good old-fashioned whoop whoops? (followed by fast fist pumping action) πŸ’ͺ🏻

You need to be the one jumping for joy when you overhaul that miserable second chapter or when you climb out of a huge plot hole, with a pencil between your teeth and a thick layer of sweat on your forehead.

You need to be the one chanting “you can do this writer!” when you are paralysed with self doubt and feel like quitting. 

Here’s a fabulous quote from Wings For The Heart.com on being your own cheerleader:

The truth is, however, the act of simply believing in ourselves can be enough to give us the necessary confidence to accomplish the impossible, achieve greatness, and pick ourselves up when we fall. 

Become your own cheerleader today. 

If you can motivate and encourage yourself you will go far Writer!

Have a great day Writer Cheerleaders. 

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41 thoughts on “Writer: Why You Need To Become Your Own Cheerleader #SundayBlogShare #ASMSG

  1. I’m almost tempted to take you up on the cartwheeling challenge… except I don’t have any pom poms.

    Great post!

    1. Hey thx, I have been banned from cartwheeling inside the house when I am overcome with literary joy. Too much furniture has been ruined. Good luck though with yours πŸ‘πŸ» Happy Sunday πŸ™‹πŸΌ

  2. Excellent post, Lucy. So well-written. I really enjoyed reading it and am crossing my fingers that you’ll soon be posting a follow-up blog with pictures of fellow writers dressed up like cheerleaders and whoop-whooping for themselves. In all seriousness, this post is a great reminder to take time to celebrate writing victories, big and small.

    Cheers!

  3. You’re so right about this, and the spirit in which it’s written is great! Writing is a solitary occupation, and even in this I’ve-just-been-for-a-dump-better-share-it-on-Facebook era in which we live, we have to understand that. Okay, okay, I know it’s a generation thing – I actually wrote a few books before I started connecting with other writers on Twitter. That came afterwards, as a necessity that I ended up enjoying, it wasn’t part of what I was doing. I think a bit of old-fashioned resilience is what you need, really.

    I think a bad thing about social media is that it encourages people to think that everyone is interested in everything they do. And false support (so easy to write, ‘yay, you go girl’. Needn’t necessarily mean anything except ‘look, I’ve given you positive affirmation, please give me some back.’ Or, worse, ‘I want you to like me so you’ll buy my product’).

    The good thing about social media is that it offers a whole world of like-minded connections. That’s a GREAT thing. A TERRIFIC thing, that a writer of 50 years ago would have thought just a dream. But, as you say, the only person who can write the damn book is you!

  4. I will not be practising any cartwheels, and the only cheering going on will be for getting through another week!
    Seriously though, enthusiasm of any kind is becoming as rare as hens teeth in my house!

  5. I squeezed into a cheerleaders dress with extreme difficulty that is one thing that took a while and left me looking like a captured blancmange; but the husband’s back… I got carried away and went for the shoulder lift. One foot on the top of his buttocks, not my fault he didn’t expect me too, threw leg over right shouder pompoms aloft and that’s when he toppled. I face planted the sofa and have a design on my cheek as proof. The husband didn’t save himself, hitting the floor with his tummy cusion, he sort of jerked back and well… today will be spent prone on the Maple floor of our one day to be living room, but for now it resembles a storage container for Windows are us! #renovating.

  6. Give me an “L”…. Give me a “U”…Give me a “C”…. Give me a “Y”…

    See you have lots of cheerleaders! Great motivational post and works for so many walks of life x

  7. I have 3 real cheerleaders. But sometimes I can’t help wondering if they really do think I’m awesome, or they just feel sorry for me! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  8. I read this post the day after I told a friend “The business of writing is HARD!” I said it with a smile, because, of course, the business is hard. Everything worth doing is going to be hard. She said, in reply, “You gotta be prepared to work for your dream.” She’s right- and so are you. No one is going to do the work but me. And no one, no matter how wonderful they are, will be cheering me at every step. Writing is a marathon and many times there isn’t someone with a banner and a sip of water at every mile. I love your message. Thank you for saying it!

  9. Hmmmm…Just had several positive feedbacks from my writing group on a short story concerning…Batman! From an upcoming book, Shenanigans (the early years)

  10. Reblogged this on C. Foley's Writing Blog and commented:
    Such excellent advice – writing is a very solitary task, and especially when you’re starting out and it seems like no one’s paying any bit of interest in what you’re sharing it can be difficult to stay motivated. And that’s where you come in – because if you can’t motivate yourself then how can you expect anyone else to?

  11. From somewhere between readable and amazing, (but definitely closer to the readable end of the equation), it’s been one of the worst years of my writing life so far, and still only July! So thank you.

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