Being a writer isn’t easy. Not only do you have to create, write, edit, revise, shelve, rewrite, deliberate, proof read, format, publish and promote but you also have to learn to cheer yourself on at every stage. *Gasp*.
You have to become your own cheerleader and this is a tough one to accept.
When you first enter the literary world, with a huge smile, a head full of stories and a strong urge to connect with other writers on Twitter, you don’t envisage any dark creative times, as there will almost certainly be a crowd of loved ones, close friends, writing acquaintances and loyal readers to cheer you on. *Sigh*
What you come to realise….over time… is that supporting a writer is not an easy task. Not only does this magical human being have to possess bags of patience for when you are busy road testing different genres, writing a lot of rubbish, frantically deleting everything you have ever written and being riddled with self-doubt, they also need A LOT of time on their hands! A writer can take years to produce something which is ‘readable’ and decades to produce something which is ‘amazing.’
So it’s no surprise that the support from those around you fluctuates and sometimes fizzles away (particularly in the writing absolute rubbish years). People have their own lives to lead and are often in bed fast asleep at 2 A.M. when you are sobbing into your third draft over the writing desk and pouring yourself another glass of sherry.
When you take on the huge task of writing a novel there are so many hurdles to overcome. Writing the opening paragraph of your story sounds easy enough but this can turn into a week-long challenge for some of us. It’s not like your problems stop after the first draft either, my goodness I used to think once I had finished the first draft it would be plain sailing from there onwards – LOL! How I laugh now!
So with so many obstacles to face it’s unrealistic to think there will be someone cheering you on through every challenging moment.
Other writers will give you some support and can often relate to your frustrations around weak characters, negative feedback and no one retweeting your latest piece of flash fiction but they have their own projects to work on.
The realisation of you being on your own with this writing journey can be quite scary and it can sting a little. You stop typing and stare at the 7 little words you have managed to force out. This latest bout of writer’s block has been bad. You look round, desperate to see a small crowd of pyjama clad family members waving banners and urging you to work through the pain. Sadly there is no one there to support you. Even the dog can’t bring himself to wake up.
So, you have to learn to become your own cheerleader. Now I am not proposing you squeeze yourself into a little dress, grab some pom poms and start cartwheeling around the living room, chanting your own name – but please let me know if you do this. You can guest blog on BlondeWriteMore about it (photos will be essential).
What I am saying is you need to give yourself lots of encouragement and a lot of whoop whoops! Where would we all be without some good old-fashioned whoop whoops? (followed by fast fist pumping action) 💪🏻
You need to be the one jumping for joy when you overhaul that miserable second chapter or when you climb out of a huge plot hole, with a pencil between your teeth and a thick layer of sweat on your forehead.
You need to be the one chanting “you can do this writer!” when you are paralysed with self doubt and feel like quitting.
Here’s a fabulous quote from Wings For The Heart.com on being your own cheerleader:
The truth is, however, the act of simply believing in ourselves can be enough to give us the necessary confidence to accomplish the impossible, achieve greatness, and pick ourselves up when we fall.
Become your own cheerleader today.
If you can motivate and encourage yourself you will go far Writer!
Have a great day Writer Cheerleaders.