Why #Writers Need Stubborn Hearts #AmWriting #MyStubbornWriterHeart ❤️


During a moment of writing frustration last week I fell into the soothing and comforting arms of Pinterest.

After some rapid pinning action and a few scrolls I found this image.

As I stared at the quote, I clutched a large glass of wine and wedged a giant slab of chocolate into my mouth (nearly dislocating my jaw). All my best thinking is done in the presence of a chilled rose and a nice bit of chocolate. I told myself magic would happen if I didn’t give up on this piece of writing and the universe would fall in love with my stubborn writer heart.

I returned to my writing and sat there, giving it a few filthy looks and then eye rolling it. Magic did happen…eventually…in the small hours when the house became silent.

Some might say the wine and chocolate helped me through this bad writing moment, but I am going to say success came from this quote.

The phrase ‘a stubborn heart’ got me thinking. I love the idea of a heart being stubborn.

So, a few days later I started with normal day-to-day life and tried to list examples where we need a stubborn heart.

Nothing sprang to mind. Think my brain was on strike again. A loved one had left out some more chocolate so I broke off a colossal sized chunk of chocolate and set to work on stuffing this into my mouth, whilst coming up with some examples of day-to-day life situations which require a stubborn heart.

To my frustration my brain continued to offer me nothing and annoyingly the chocolate piece was a little too big for my mouth. So I persevered with it, trying not to choke and worked hard to shoehorn it in. I made a bit of a mess around my mouth but I was determined to eat this block of milk chocolate. I am not a chocolate quitter. Eventually after a good shove, some muttering under my breath, a ‘can do’ attitude the chunk of chocolate went in.

After this stressful episode I gave up on coming up with normal day-to-day life examples and reflected upon writing scenarios where a stubborn heart is needed.

After much deliberation I cobbled this list together.

The writer and their stubborn heart:

  1. When you know you have to write and all your brain wants to do is lie in state on the sofa, watch something on Netflix and flip Oreo biscuits into your mouth. Your stubborn heart puts its foot down and tells you your book will not write itself.
  2. When you are busy talking yourself out of finishing your draft novel because in your head it’s 46,000 words of literary wrong and should just be deleted. Your stubborn heart tells you to ignore what your mind is saying and orders you back to work.
  3. When your loved one labels your idea for a romance novel as ‘unrealistic’ and your stubborn heart advises you to ignore him, as his idea of romance is for you both to be sat on the sofa watching sport. It tells you to carry on with your idea.
  4. When all your writing friends are busy publishing fantastic work and achieving success, you are still mastering your craft. Your stubborn heart tells you your time will come once you have done the work.
  5. When you receive your first stinging rejection and you want to give up, your stubborn heart tells you that was just one person’s view and there are a host of other people out there who might be interested to read your work.
  6. When you know your story needs more work even though you feel weary and a shadow of your former self. Your stubborn heart advises you to go to bed early and start work on it again tomorrow.
  7. When you are struggling on a part of your draft novel, the words have dried up and you are slumped in a tearful mess at your writing desk. Your stubborn heart tells you to stick with it and be patient. The words will come.
  8. When you know the second half of your draft novel needs rewriting and everyone thinks you are crazy for even thinking this. Your stubborn heart tells you to ignore them and get to work.
  9. When those around you are telling you that it is ok to miss a writing deadline. They tell you a writing deadline is not important and no one is going to die if you don’t meet your word count deadline. Your stubborn heart reminds you of how much it will hurt inside if you miss a deadline.
  10. When you have enough literary rejections to wallpaper your downstairs toilet and someone suggests maybe it is time to give up on your dream. Your stubborn heart tells you to shout “I will not give up on my author dream!”  It then points you in the direction of your laptop.

From what I can see a stubborn heart makes us want to do more, write more and do it right.

As Mary Lou Retton says,

‘Each one of us has a fire in our heart for something. It’s our goal in life to find it and to keep it lit.’

Let me know whether you have a stubborn writer heart and any writing situations where you have had to use it?

Have a great day!

Big shout out to all chocolate lovers too 👍🏻

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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❤️

39 thoughts on “Why #Writers Need Stubborn Hearts #AmWriting #MyStubbornWriterHeart ❤️

  1. Love this post Lucy! I too am partial to pinning inspirational quotes on Pinterest (must print them off one of these days and wallpaper my house with them). I found this just the other day by Maya Angelou: “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” We’re all striving towards success without really defining what success means to us, so I’m going to keep this definition close and remember it every time I have ‘one of those days’.

  2. I also like the idea of a “stubborn heart” refusing to give up on a dream. Writing is HARD. It’s not all sparkles and rainbows. The stubborn heart might be the only thing that keeps me going some days, when I know no one is just WAITING to read my words. The only one that really cares, that truly wants this thing to see and be seen in the world, is me. So I must love it and fight for it. But maybe, also, with a huge hunk of chocolate nearby. Loved the post!

  3. Well, it seems to me you are good at identifying the wrong ways of motivating, which is the best way of actually starting to motivate. Anti-denial and all that. Stubborn resistance to old ways of procrastinating is the best solution…but then again the Borg say “Resistance is futile,” and yet they were quite progressive in many ways and, as I recall, now want to muck about with excuse mongering. “Do or do not, there is no try”…except that’s now dipped into Yoda and quite away from Star Trek… odd how your posts inspire rambling… 🙂

    Best get my head round writing again after this “talking to”…or is that “wording to”? stubbornness, resolve, and determination…less cognitive dissonance…

    I have taken to hiding manuscript first drafts in the attic too. Just in case posthumous infamy strikes and some distant house dweller unearths the early works as historical finds of tremendous value.

      1. Awww; at least you appreciate me then 🙂

        I only hide them after I’ve edited…mostly…. I now have two first drafts and one that’s still waiting for some publisher feedback…most paralysing that is!!!

  4. Hi Lucy,
    I am linking to this post in my Writer’s Block article in about two weeks. Do you still consider yourself a blogger in the humor niche? That’s how I’m introducing you in my post.
    I find it interesting while I work on a post about Writer’s Block I find this gem.
    Of course, we agree. The post will not write itself. Your post is funny when it comes to the part about the chocolate. A few months ago, I wrote a post about blogging and obesity. Overeating (stress eating?) while blogging can be a real concern. You eat chocolate; I eat popcorn.

  5. Mmm, chocolate *drools a little*

    Life needs a stubborn heart when you have to recover from a mental illness, when you have to leave behind your life and find a new one, when you want to give up and go back to how you were, when you know that on the other side of fear is everything you want…. A stubborn heart will see you through all the rubbish life throws at you.

    I love the phrase. One that’s going to stick with me, I think. 🙂

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