Has your beloved entered NaNoWriMo?
Did they cheerfully announce at the dinner table, last week, after demolishing your cheese board, that for the month of November they are going to be enjoying themselves, by writing 50,000 words?
On the 1st November, did you watch your beloved strap themselves to their writing chair, set up a device, which gives out small electric shots, if movement is detected and mutter, ‘if I physically tie myself to the chair and administer electric shots for when I try to wander off…..there might be a small glimmer of hope for me,’ ?
Have you noticed a significant change in your beloved since the start of November? Are they ACTUALLY writing something?
Your loved one has entered NaNoWriMo, a marvellous writing contest, which starts on the 1st of November. By the end of November your writer has to have hammered out 50,000 words!
In view of the tough, writing challenge, facing your beloved, it is time to think about what YOU can do to keep your relationship alive during NaNoWriMo.
The team, here at BlondeWriteMore (the dog and I), have got this covered.
Here are some top tips for you.
Luckily BlondeWriteMore has herself entered NaNoWriMo and for this post has drawn upon her own experience with her loved one.
1. Accept the fact that you will spend a lot of November talking to your beloved about people, events and locations that don’t actually exist.
2. When your writer wakes you in the small hours with a worrying plot issue, moaning about what time it is, how tired YOU are and what YOU have on at work is not going to help the situation. This is a big moment for your writer. They are creating something wonderful with NaNoWriMo. Your silent support is needed 24-7.
3. Your relationship and their NaNoWriMo progress will become interlinked. When they have achieved their daily word count, you can expect kisses, and positive quotes from Pinterest sent to you. When they are behind on their word count, you can expect tension, tears, tantrums and scary quotes from Pinterest via text.
4. When your writer has finished working towards their daily word count, the best thing you can do is get them a soothing hot drink, sit them down somewhere quiet and offer them a little food. They have been working hard, During this delicate time moaning at your bleary eyed writer about the state of the washing, the empty food cupboards and lack of ironing will cause immediate relationship discord.
5. Accept the fact that your writer is going to feel the need to read bits out loud to you as the month of November progresses. This can occur at any minute and you need to accept the fact, that whilst you are relaxing in a hot bath, with your fleet of rubber ducks, your loved one is going to walk in, sit down on the side of the bath and start reading to you. Just let it happen. Don’t resist this and whatever you do, DO NOT COMMENT or something unexpected might happen to your fleet of rubber ducks!
6. Tread carefully during November, when giving your writer some feedback on their story. Think carefully about giving your writer some negative feedback as this is a minefield. NaNoWriMo is not about writing a bestseller in a month, it is about getting words down. Say something inflammatory and you run the risk of your shirts not being ironed, dinner being put in the bin or fed to the dog. Ask yourself – is it worth the relationship pain and can I just keep my mouth shut until 1st December?
7. During November fictional characters everywhere are going to suffer. This is the month fictional characters dread because they have to do everything at high speed; fall in love, break up, start a job, lose a job, get married, get divorced, feel happy about having a nice life one minute and then the next discover something horrific, love someone, kill them, fight an epic battle, get injured, recover and die. Your writer will struggle with their emotions during November so you need to be on hand for when fictional tragedy strikes. Diarise this situation for the second or third week of NaNoWriMo if you want to be super organised. When faced with fictional trauma, simply place calming hand on the shoulder of your sobbing writer (who has just hammered out the death of a much-loved character) and in a reassuring voice say ‘we are going to get through this together,’ (administer gentle squeeze of shoulder).
8. If there is a character who sets hearts racing in your writer’s story and gives your writer that ‘dreamy, faraway look’ (nudge, wink) – DO NOT get carried away and suggest some relationship / marital role play at bedtime. For goodness sake your beloved has a pressing WORD COUNT to think about and DOES NOT have the time to cavort with you under the bed sheets! Put your romantic urges and fantasies aside for one month.
9. Make sure your writer’s word count is always at the front of your mind. Don’t disturb them with ‘low priority’ issues such as, the dish washer needs unloading, the family needs to eat, your shirts need ironing, the bins need taking out and the pets won’t stop squabbling.
10. Accept that your own issues regarding your car, your job, the state of the kitchen ceiling, tickets for the next sporting event you want to attend and the economy don’t come close in terms of importance and magnitude to the issues your writer is facing with NaNoWrimo.
Put these useful tips into practice and hopefully by the end of November, you will both be gazing, longingly at each other…..as long as your writer has hit the 50k mark and is not desperately scrabbling around for words at 47,876 with three hours to go.
Have fun out there x
You can find me on the NaNoWriMo site, under BlondeWriteMore.