How The Act of Sharing Your Not So Perfect Writing Life Helps Other Writers #writer

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Writing is not easy.

If you have ever found yourself forcing out a few words while listening to a crowd of negative voices in your head or staring miserably at 1567 words you wrote yesterday, which now sound like nonsense, you will understand.

Social media doesn’t help. There are days when it feels like everyone else has the perfect writing life. They’ve smashed their daily word count target, come up with ten new ideas for future books, caught the eye of an interested agent, watched their blog post go viral and taken over every form of social media known to mankind…all before lunch.

You, on the other hand have not written anything since you woke up because you can’t find your favourite pen, the coffee machine is on the blink, your dog has run off with your notebook, you can’t remember the last time you wrote more than two paragraphs, you’re still nursing an eight-day cold, over breakfast your husband said your latest romance book premise is ‘unrealistic’ and the kids are running riot.

It’s on days like these when we need to read about other writers and their not so perfect writing lives. Their stories are smile inducing and in some cases feel like a much-needed virtual hug.

Sharing moments from our not so perfect writing lives is important and something we should all do.

These moments help other writers in the following ways:

  1. Reading about another writer’s not so perfect writing life helps alleviate those crap feelings which we all get. The ones which usually start with ‘I must be the only writer who..’ 
  2. These moments makes us all smile and nod knowingly at our laptop screen. In view of the pain and suffering we all go through with our writing we can all do with a smile.
  3. Sharing stuff like this makes us feel like we’re not alone. We are in this together.
  4. Friendships are made when we share moments from our not so perfect writing lives. We can identify with other people going through similar episodes of pain and suffering.
  5. We are making art and the creation of any art is messy. It’s always good to look up and see you are not the only writer making a creative mess.
  6. Social media is not real life.
  7. Reading about not so perfect writing moments distracts us from comparing ourselves to other writers. We forget the ‘I could never write as something as good as her,’ and say things like ‘I love the way she never gives up no matter how many rejections she has received’ and ‘I love how she’s trying to do the laundry, editing and all the childcare at the same time.’
  8. Reading about another writer who is clearly having a tough day but is still carrying on can be inspirational. This is when a not so perfect writing life moment becomes powerful. You think to yourself ‘blimey – if he’s still smiling and carrying on with his writing…after his daughter accidentally knocked his coffee over his laptop, his wife is in bed with a nasty bout of flu, his mother is due to call in this afternoon, the kids are not dressed, the dog’s limping, his house is a mess, I can struggle on with my first chapter!’

So, on the days when you experiencing a painful episode of writer’s block and you are wrapped in a comforting blanket, watching Netflix whilst stuffing your face with chocolate. Share this not so perfect writing life moment! I guarantee there will be someone else in the world going through the same thing.

When your draft feels like a collection of typos and editing is getting you down and you are sat behind the shed in the garden, with a glass of wine and a box of tissues, share this not so perfect writing life moment. There are other writers around the world sat behind their garden shed pouring themselves another large glass and toasting their typos!

When you have had no luck with finding an agent or publisher and are toasting marshmallows on a bonfire (made from wood and your draft novel) – share this not so  perfect writing life moment! There are other draft novel bonfires being lit all over the world. You are not alone.

Let’s use our not so perfect writing life moments to help others.

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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❤️

16 thoughts on “How The Act of Sharing Your Not So Perfect Writing Life Helps Other Writers #writer

  1. I have been criticised in the past for sharing some of my mistakes/setbacks/nightmares on line.
    That I need people to like me, not dismiss me as a manic depressive with a failure complex.
    But I have found that learning I’m not alone with my self inflicted torture has helped me a lot. I mean, we do learn by our (and other people’s) mistakes, don’t we?

  2. Yes yes yes!!!! This!
    Lucy, I’m all for sharing the ups and downs, not only of life, but of the writing oath.
    It always helps to read and know someone else is there, in your shoes too!

  3. Ha! Lucy, you always make me smile. So, in the spirit of sharing, I’m currently forensically examining the first three chapters of my WIP wondering if applying “deep POV” in places is worth the agony of re-jigging perfectly acceptable sentences. I don’t need to do this. It’s fine as it is, I know, but there’s always that little part of me thinking… “Would this be better if…” So I’m sharing that irksome tendency we all have of never thinking that what we’ve written is good enough AS IT IS! x

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