You can build some great connections online with other bloggers. With some blogging connections it can feel like you have found your online Best Friend Forever (BFF), even though you’ve never actually met face to face.
Meeting your online BFF in real life can get a little crazy.
As I have met most of my online blogging friends at blogging events, I have used this scenario – the blogging event (conference or awards ceremony) to show you the key stages.
2016 was the year I started listening to those around me. After spending the first part of the year dismissing advice and top tips from my creative friends (as I thought I knew best… sigh!) I thought I would do something different in the second half of last year.
So I listened, took advice and almost immediately started squeaking “oh my goodness you were right!”
As you can imagine readers I received a lot of eye rolls last year and the 🙄 emoji was well used.
Here are 10 things my creative friends have taught me:
I have been wanting to connect with my inner biker chick for sometime. If I am honest I don’t have the time to connect with my inner biker chick what with being a mother, a wife, a pet owner, working full-time, being a writer, a blogger and now a podcaster. There are not enough hours in the day. Anyway you will all be glad to know that I have now resolved this situation.
Your inner biker chick is your wild, leather clad, rebellious side which sometimes needs to come out to shake things up a bit.
We all have an inner bike chick inside of us and sometimes we get a powerful urge to connect with her, even though there might not be a motorbike in sight.
Through my writing I have connected with my inner biker chick. My fictional character Roxy Collins, in the latest episode of the ‘Diary of Roxy Collins Podcast’ on iTunes and here on SoundCloud has a date with Gordon; a biker and the lead singer of a rock band. Her best mate Shaz advises that she should use this dating opportunity to connect with her inner biker chick. I would like to point out that I had a lot of fun with this episode. Useful Kim has to be one of my favourite new characters for 2016. I can’t wait for listener feedback on Useful Kim!
After writing it I felt like my inner bike chick and I were much closer. Within an hour of finishing the podcast I was hot footing it down my local department store’s makeup counter asking to be taught how to do smokey eyeshadow, I browsed leather jackets in the Women’s Clothing department and I declared to my family that I wasn’t planning to do any ironing or sock matching for the rest of the weekend as I was a free spirit. (Rebellious huh!).
So, I thought I would do a blog post on how you can connect with your inner biker chick:
Biker Chick Mindset:
Take action! Biker chicks don’t sit around waiting for something to happen – they do it themselves. So start writing that book, launch that blog or record that podcast TODAY!
Shun the expectations! Strong badass biker chicks don’t worry about what others think of them. So lose the concern over what people expect you to do or be in life. Focus that concern on being you and defining who you are!
Think confidently and act confidently. Imagine you are leather clad and sat on a monstrous bike – you can’t look uncertain and troubled in this scenario. Get that badass biker chick look in your eye, take some deep breaths, wear a stern smile and look like you ready for anything!
Exercise your free spirit. Practice freeing yourself from daily drudgery – in my book this means housework!
Biker Chick Wardrobe:
You want to be rocking the classy / edgy biker style.
Aim for the iconic black leather biker jacket, white t-shirt and skin-tight leather trousers. Roxy struggled with this look but fair play she gave it a go!
Finish off with some black shades and killer heels (in my head killer heels sound fab but in reality I will be crippled within half an hour).
Here are some celebs channelling their inner biker chick:
This time last year I thought it would be a good idea to blog every day for twelve months.
I wanted to know whether it would do anything to my writing or give me some direction in my creative life. Last year I had just finished writing a bad thriller novel and wasn’t feeling the literary love.
If I now look back at myself I can’t believe how far I have come and what I have achieved. I put a lot of this down to daily blogging.
Here are the things that I have learnt as a result of daily blogging:
Due to technology you can whip up a post almost anywhere.
Here are some of my best places to write a blog post:
For the killer / viral potential blog post:
In the bath. I have some written some real gems whilst having a soak. All my popular posts were written in the bath! In my experience the more bubbles and rubber ducks the better!
In the kitchen whilst cooking tea. The meal hasn’t turned out great but my viewing figures have definitely made up for the culinary disaster. I like to cook and tap out a post at the same time.
For the emotional blog post:
In a bookshop. I am always close to tears in a bookshop. Any posts that I write, after standing staring at the shelf where my future book will eventually go, will be jam packed with emotion.
On the sofa post a tear jerker of a romantic film. I wipe away my tears and tell my loved one to pass me my phone quick. In a matter of minutes I have typed out something which will tug on my reader’s heart strings.
For the wild and whacky post:
In bed. Shortly after waking or in the early hours of the morning. These posts always make me see things differently!
For the intellectual post:
In a museum or art gallery. I must say I haven’t done many of these. I know this will surprise some of you 🙂
For the sociable and chatty post:
In a coffee shop. Make sure you have a strong coffee to hand.
On the beach. It’s surprising what you can come up with whilst lying on a beach towel, looking around and being grateful for stopping yourself from wearing that string bikini!
For the deep and reflective post:
On a hill. Sat on top of a hill looking out across the world can bring on all sorts of meaningful posts.
For the fun and crazy post:
In a bar post a delicious cocktail. My goodness this will bring on some interesting thoughts which you will be desperate to share with your readers! Please note: one cocktail and your blog post will be bright and breezy. Writing a post after several cocktails is a totally different experience (and one to avoid if possible…)
Other places to consider writing a blog post:
In a car park.
In the vets waiting room.
At a station waiting for a train.
At an airport.
On a plane.
Whilst walking to work.
In a supermarket whilst pushing the trolley. I find that I get a lot of my blog post ideas in the frozen food section.
Have fun writing those blog posts!
Please let me know your favourite place to write a blog post?
This is a similar condition to an Author Crush. There are some bloggers out there who you connect with in a big way. Their blog is like a second virtual home to you. In your eyes they will never serve you up a ‘dud’ blog post.
Here are the signs that you have a blogger crush:
You say things like “my goodness look at [blogger’s name]’s fine Canva skills!” and “[enter blogger’s name] has some beautiful fonts!”
You find yourself waiting for them to post.
You think they have amazing taste in blog themes.
You are connected to this blogger across all forms of social media.
You are usually the first to comment on their blog posts.
You tweet them in the hope that one day they will tweet back and realise that you are the little blogger who comments regularly on their posts.
You don’t mind if they don’t reply to your comments on their blog post. They are probably creating a wonderful blog post or doing something amazing on YouTube.
You try to replicate their blogging style but you don’t get the same response.
Their blog is so beautiful and inspiring that it takes your breath away when you see it.
You know the names of all their pets.
When this blogger announces they are starting a YouTube channel you cancel your loved one’s TV boxset night evening and force them to watch your beloved blogger talk about makeup techniques, morning rituals and vegetable smoothies good for the bowels.
You go to meet them in person at a festival. You don’t get to meet your beloved blogger because they are too busy talking to other fans but all is not lost because you persaude their sister to join you in a selfie taking frenzy. (True story!)
You live in hope that one day they might come and visit your blog.