Figuring Out & Accepting What Kind of Writer I Am Has Proved More Challenging Than Writing Books #MondayBlogs #Writers


In terms of writer distraction this has been the worse.

The ‘what am I?’ question will mess with your head and even when you think you know what you are, another little voice will whisper, ‘but what if you wrote stuff like this…’

I worry about the length of time it has taken me to figure out and accept what kind of writer I am. Four years to be precise. I am sure most writers come to the table with a good idea of what they want to write and I have spent four years going round in circles. Please comment if you disagree as I am hoping this creative soul-searching business is normal.

It has taken far longer than I expected. I have had to write a lot of wrong stuff, what I mean by this, is writing which doesn’t suit me or bring out the best in me, to get to this stage.

After four long years, filled with a lot of creative and emotional turmoil, thousands of words and loads of soul-searching blog posts, I have finally come to the conclusion that my writing heart lies with romantic comedy.

I can’t believe it has taken me this long to work this one out and here’s the important bit…BE OKAY WITH THAT. If you think getting to the figuring out stage was the hard bit – think again. Accepting what you write best involves another head wrestle.

Learning to accept that my thing in life is to write romantic comedy has been interesting, as for years it didn’t sit right in my head.

I have fought against the comedy side for ages and spent a lot of this year writing dark stuff in an attempt to run away from it.

But, the comedy side of me has refused to go away. Whilst writing, ‘I want to write dark thrillers‘ blog posts I would be looking for spare cupboards, to crawl inside, drink wine and record my Roxy comedy series.

For some reason, I didn’t rate writing funny stuff. I thought writing a good book was all about writing something serious and intellectual. At work I would find myself DREAMING about crafting fine prose, which boffins (with large foreheads) would let out soft moans of pleasure over in dusty libraries.

After four years you will be glad to know I have come to my senses. In real life I struggle to come out with serious and intellectual stuff, so why am I expecting to write it?

Here’s where my head is at today:

Writing is all about evoking a reaction in your reader. Making a reader smile or chuckle is a reaction.

I have tried writing other genres. This year I wrote a thriller and it made me depressed. I also wrote a serious romance and it turned out dreary.

After every failed attempt at writing something else my romantic comedy stories are always waiting for me.

I am a romantic comedy writer. That’s it. I am no longer trying to be anything else.

Since I came to this conclusion I have had a number of literary successes. The universe is trying to tell me something. Weirdly, I did go to a psychic and spiritual fair a few months ago and the lady who did my tarot cards told me, my spirit guides were getting frustrated with me as I WAS NOT LISTENING to them. At the time I had just started writing a dark thriller. I am now starting to wonder whether this was why they were frustrated.

Maybe they have been trying to encourage me to write romantic comedy for FOUR years and I have not listened to them?

Keep writing, folks!

A big shout out to all my spirit guides – I am listening now. *Sigh*


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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❤️

39 thoughts on “Figuring Out & Accepting What Kind of Writer I Am Has Proved More Challenging Than Writing Books #MondayBlogs #Writers

  1. I’m sure your spirit guides are happy now you’re listening to them. I thought you had come to this conclusion ages ago, but I get confused sometimes.
    I think writing is not just about your reader, it’s about you as well, you have to be emotionally invested in your work and it kind of has to resonate with who you are. I hope your new path will take you where you want to be 🙂

    1. I did, Simon but then I changed my mind. Just use this post as the ‘current status’ for BlondeWriteMore but watch out for next week’s post titled ‘How I fell in love with writing horror.’

      1. Haha… I love your ups and downs. No wonder your spirit guides are frustrated with you.
        You do romantic comedy so well and you know you love it. I tell you what, next time you change to sci fi I’ll write romantic comedy and share the results 😂

  2. Okay, this is interesting and here’s my tuppence worth. I’ve just read a rom/com novel ‘How To Fall In Love With A Man In A Bush’ and I loved it, because it brought something original to the genre. Maybe you’re fighting against writing a stereotypical rom/com story and I think that’s a good thing, because the best stories don’t confine themselves to one genre. You can write in a rom/com style but choose a less obvious subject (in this case, the book is about homelessness and our ingrained prejudices when looking for the ideal partner) Anyway, I think if you write funny – embrace it! Not many people can do that x

  3. Whatever anyone says writing humour is the most difficult genre bar none. I’ve written one novel with humour and my eyes bled at the end. The other books are all dark. Much easier. I can’t write fantasy or YA or MG or romance though I tried with short stories. You learn what works and what doesn’t. I wish I could write more humour – the sequel to my first is due soon and it’s been editing more than any other book. Good to know you’ve found your metier

    1. Thank you TanGental. It helps focus the mind if you know which race to compete in. I would LOVE to write Fantasy, Science Fiction and YA but sadly I come to life when there is a whiff of romance 🙂

  4. I’m the other way round, though I know EXACTLY what you mean!

    Before the dark psychological thriller (you know, all those books with huge white letters all over the cover called things like ‘The Lies They Told’ or ‘Behind The Door’ or ‘Girl Gone Missing’ or ‘My neighbour’s A Psycho’, the in-genre was romcom. I tried, I really did, to write something light. But I just couldn’t. By page 3, my fun girl was having dark inner thoughts, and rebelling against being called Poppy. And she wanted to live in a post-apocalyptic landscape, not Bluebell Cottage down AppleTree Lane in Cutesville-on-Sea. She stuck two fingers up at any suggestion of a bake-off, too.

    I learned to accept it. And that what I really like to write about is nasty twisted people who use bad language. I write them sparingly, but I always like writing the psycho (or at least mildly sociopathic!) characters the best!!!

    You write funny very well – even your blog posts scream romcom. Don’t change a thing 🙂

  5. Stephen King says the best thing we can do is stop apologizing for what we write, and I think he is spot on. When I was young, I had professors tell me to read better books so I could write better stories. I grew up reading sci-fi and fantasy, so that’s what I wrote. And I am definitely a fantasy girl. Even my “modern” novels wind up with an element of magic or fantasy in them. I can’t get away from it. Like you, I find life much easier when I don’t run away from who I am. Congrats on figuring this out. Four years is nothing in terms of a life-time career. It was not wasted time. You had a valuable lesson to learn and you did. Congrats!

  6. This is HUGE for me. I can so relate. Holy shit. What I *think* I should be writing, what others tell me I should write… It’s a disaster.

    Listen to the Tarot, my friend. Listen to your guides. 🙂 Happy to hear you’ve finally accepted and can move on. Now…move on with that book so we can read it!

      1. Squee! *happy dance* Hey, you wouldn’t believe the freak-out I’m having reading that! Thrilled for you!

        (We must always listen to the Tarot…it is the only way.) *swims away* 🐠

  7. This is very strange as I always thought funny was your thing. Humour is the most difficult to write well and has the least information on how to. I believe it’s because you can not teach funny to someone who is not … You most certainly are. P.S. you have not wasted four years you blogged (practiced) every bit of those years and you only improve by doing it. I can not wait for you to let me read your work, remember I offered. Break a nib Lucy and break it good. 😉😊

  8. Thank you for sharing, this post was so inspiring! What you said about only serious books are good books hit really close to home. I feel like it’s an insecurity a lot of writers have, that their books aren’t serious or literary enough to be considered thought provoking works of art. But any book that makes us feel anything is a good book, and the world today definitely needs a few laughs. Keep doing you! 🙂

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