Seeing a writer friend slide into the pit of writer gloom can be hard.
Writer friends are special as you share a different kind of friendship bond with them. Seeing them struggle with writing can be just as painful as your own writing battles.
You don’t want to see them glum because:
- You admire their writing talent.
- You know that writing makes them goofy happy.
- You know that they have got themselves into a bit of a negative hole and just need to find a way of climbing out of it.
- They were there for you when you fell into the pit of writer gloom. They pulled you out and look at you now – full of writer joy – sigh!
Writer gloom happens to all of us.
Once we let those pesky writing demons run riot in our minds it can result in ‘gloomy writer face’ for a period of time.
So it’s time to turn your glum looking writing friend around.
Here are 10 things to do when facing this painful situation:
- Tell them how amazing you think they are as a writer. Sometimes when we are down about writing we just need to hear that there is someone out there who rates us.
- Send them a virtual tweet hug. Sometimes a virtual tweet hug and a cry on a virtual shoulder releases the build up of creative tension.
- Remind them of their last writing success. It can be big or small. Maybe they have got some great feedback on a blog post? Maybe they won an online competition? Maybe they got some fab reviews on Amazon for their latest book? I find copying, pasting and emailing them a sample of the lovely things people have said in reviews or blog comments about their writing works well. You need to show them that their writing has touched and made a difference to someone out there.
- Remind them about how far they have come on their writing journey.
- Ask them to think about why they started writing? What was it that made them start writing in the first place?
- Suggest that they write something for fun. Sometimes we just need a break from big heavy writing projects. Flash fiction is perfect for this.
- Suggest they have a break from writing for a couple of days.
- Make them smile or laugh. Tell them some jokes.
- Remind them of the time they pulled you out of the pit of writer gloom and show them how great you are feeling now. If you can stop being glum about your writing so can they!
- Remind them that these phases come and go. When these negative phases leave us and we get back to enjoying our passion the sun does come out in writing land!
Writer friends are so special so don’t let them be glum!
Cheer them up – we all need to stick together on this creative journey 🙂
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