How to Survive Loving Your Story & Hating it an Hour Later #AmWriting #Writer


During a good writing session you decide to have a well earned break. You shuffle off to make a cup of tea, nibble on a few biscuits and kiss a loved one.

Even though you feel mentally drained you are goofy happy. You LOVE your writing and whisper to yourself  ‘I have been put on this planet to write this piece of literary gold – huzzah! I have found my story AND purpose in life!’ 

Fast forward an hour later and you return to your desk with a huge grin on your face.

After reading a few sentences your smile disappears and your mood sinks.

You were emotionally attached to your draft an hour ago. Now, after a cup of luke warm tea, a soggy digestive biscuit, which you dunked a little too much, and a hug with a loved one, who was more interested in lecturing you on your car parking abilities you are now feeling very different about it.

Your writing sounds dire! So much so – you now HATE IT!

Reality sinks in – you were put on this planet to write utter tripe!

Here’s some handy tips on how to survive this troubling situation:

Accept your creative high has ended. Creative highs are wonderful when they happen but all good things must come to an end. Life would be dull if we wrote amazing stuff all the time.

Your writing might benefit from a change in mental state. In order to do amazing things when writing you need to break the emotional attachments. This situation might actually help you.

Take another break.

We all get carried away with our ideas and literary success daydreams. Thank goodness for our inner editors, writer friends, beta-readers, editors, literary agents and publishers who are all there to keep us grounded – sigh!

Have a great day!

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Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❤️

64 thoughts on “How to Survive Loving Your Story & Hating it an Hour Later #AmWriting #Writer

      1. I only wish I had the time to sit and write,mitred drunk,more whatever, some could wake the next morning and lament!!!
        What with kids, family, teaching, life… Unless I sacrifice sleep, I don’t know when I’ll do it! Maybe I’ll set myself a target in the summer holidays… A personal PerNoWriHo! Personal Novel Writing Holiday!

  1. All perfectly good advice, but we authors are a fickle lot. We just love to beat ourselves up and chew over the rubbish until our brains bleed. BUT would we really want it any other way? You have to suffer for your art, don’t you?

  2. I am so used to this now, that when I am in one of those ‘I’ve just written 50K words of utter rubbish’ phases, I just shrug my shoulders, do something else, and wait for it to pass! Which it DOES – I remember almost not publishing my novel before last. It’s since become one of my most successful.

    I think the best bit of advice is simply to leave it, when you feel like this. Tomorrow is another day!

  3. Whatever you do don’t immediately ditch your work because it looks dull. I recently found a CD (yes it was that old!) containing a story I had started and given up on. Re-reading it I found the first paragraph was really good, and finished it. It is probably nothing like I had originally intended, but it is on my blog now.

  4. Yes, exactly this, Lucy! “You were emotionally attached to it yesterday. Today you are in a different head space. Your writing will benefit from this change in your mental state.” In my case, also, the sugar has worn off (it can be tea, it can be coffee, it can be candy or pastries or ice cream)! 😉

  5. I struggle with the highs and lows of writing. The urge comes and goes at various times. It could be days before something hits. When it happens, I feel great. When I send it off, I cringe. I wonder if they’ll like what I read or shred it with criticism. I guess it’s one of those things that I have to work through.

  6. Yes, dire (or even drivel) is the norm – but there have been rare occasions (very rare) when it’s been the other way round and it reads so well you can’t believe it’s yours, that someone else must have written it while you weren’t looking. Definitely agree with don’t stop to put it right (unless it’s fallen off a cliff) but keep going – the time to put it right is in the editing stage.

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