Here are some similarities between blogging and relationships:
- In a relationship there will be some special moments leaving you breathless and tingling; a surprise romantic dinner, a love note pinned to the fridge, hand holding in the cinema and a smouldering look across a busy bar. Once you have a blog you will also experience special moments leaving you…breathless and tingling – a surprise spike to your blog views, persuading a successful blogger to consider writing you a guest post and that momentous, spine tingling, occasion when an experienced blogger re-blogs your post.
- In a relationship there will be some rocky spells, making you glum and depressed. You won’t feel like going on a date night, cooking their favourite meal or putting any effort into making thought-provoking pillow talk. Instead you will want to be left alone to watch romcom movies, where you will imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with the lead male / female actor and not your annoying loved one who can’t put their dirty laundry in the basket or fall asleep without snoring / sounding like an air raid siren. With a blog you will also go through some bad patches. You will not feel like writing a decent blog post, analysing your blog stats tool or tweeting your posts. You will also want to be left alone, to gaze longingly at the blogs from successful bloggers and imagine what it would be like to have a following the same size as a small country, as opposed to a following consisting of a handful of readers.
- In a relationship there will be times when you need to spice things up to get the excitement back; date nights, dressing up for each other, laughing at your loved ones’ not funny jokes and agreeing to share the duvet with them (as opposed to wrapping yourself in a ball and making them freeze). With a blog there will also be times when you will be forced to spice things up. You will think purchasing a new blog theme will bring the hotness make to your blog, it will make it look stylish and give the impression you know what you are doing.
- In a relationship you start out with great plans. By the time you reach your one year anniversary you imagine you will both be hiking in snow capped mountains on a regular basis, you will have jacked in your jobs to start a successful business together and you will be busy planning a fairy tale wedding. Things might not go to plan as a year later you will both be in the same jobs, all business ideas shelved and you will be curled up on the sofa, with the central heating on, sharing a packet of biscuits and watching Netflix. The same happens when you start a blog. By the time you reach your one year blogging anniversary you believe you will be a pro blogger, have started a YouTube channel and will be busy boasting about all the freebies you have been inundated with. Things might not go to plan for you either because a year later you find yourself still with a tiny following, all Youtube plans shelved as you didn’t come across well on camera and still waiting for a freebie.
- Whilst in a relationship you may enjoy the odd flirt with others; the flutter of eye lashes or a little giggle. The same applies to blogging. Writing a guest post for someone is basically like having a little flirt with another blog.
- When in a relationship you might seek advice on a nagging issue; your loved ones’ latest choice of aftershave. You may write some lengthy emails or texts to friends asking how you should let your loved one know that their aftershave is making you feel dizzy. The same happens with a blog too. You will want some advice on a nagging blogging issue; an annoying link problem. You will also sit down to compose some lengthy emails or texts about how your inability to insert links that work is getting you down.
- When in a relationship that’s starting to tank you may lose your temper and end it. You might find yourself screaming, “ITS OVER, I AM NOT DATING EVER AGAIN!” and two weeks later happily announce you going on a date with someone new. The same happens with a struggling blog. In a tearful, angry fit you may lose your temper and delete it. You might find yourself screaming, “I QUIT, I AM NOT BLOGGING EVER AGAIN!” and two weeks later excitedly tweet about the launch of your fab new blog.
- In both a relationship and blogging you might occasionally find yourself waiting for a miracle.
- Both relationships and blogging require effort. You have to work at a relationship and the same applies to having a blog.
Have a great day all.