How To Not Feel Embarrassed About Being a Writer #writers #amwriting

Why do some of us harbour so much shame about being a writer?

Why is it so hard to admit sometimes that in your spare time you sit alone and make up stories?

Why are we sometimes ashamed or reluctant to own the phrase, ‘I am a writer.’ 

I have spent YEARS hiding, disguising and squirrelling my writing passion away. I have cringed at the thought of hearing myself say, ‘I write in my spare time,’ and don’t get me started on trying to justify a day spent in PJs, sat at a laptop with nothing to show for myself, but 3,567 words and a goofy smile. I have felt myself shrivelling up inside at the thought that I spend most weekends, ‘making stuff up,’ and worse still, I am ‘unpublished’ so no books on Amazon to make myself feel better about what I do.

I did all this until one day, a colleague at work who had read my blog said, ‘you should be proud of what you do.’

At this point my jaw was starting to drop.

‘You’re following your dreams, not many people have the courage to do that.’

Their words pinged around my head.

Yes, I am following my dreams. One day I will be stood clutching my first published or self published novel, tear-stained and flushed. I can’t wait for this special day.

Not many people have the courage to follow their dreams. Chasing a writing dream requires commitment, hard work and having the strength of mind to say no to all the other stuff life is throwing you. It is about being brave.

When it comes to writing a book I see a lot of people in my social media news feed labelling themselves as, ‘wannabe novelists’ or interested in attending a creative writing course because ‘one day they will write their book.’  I have asked one or two ‘wannabe novelists,’ and the response I got back from all was, ‘I don’t have the time right now.’ Is that true or do they not possess the bravery to stop what they are doing and follow their dreams?

Yes I spend most of my weekends, making stuff up, but at least I am out there, running after a dream. I am doing something I love in my spare time and I am proud of what I do.

What I have started to come to terms with is that writing is not just about creating stories. Writing makes you take risks and step outside of your comfort zone. It keeps you unique and stops you from simply following the status quo. It keeps you thinking big, makes you feel alive and one day your writing might make a difference to a reader’s life.

The world needs our stories.

You should be totally owning the phase, ‘I am a writer.’

Be proud of what you do. At least you have the courage to do what you love.




Posted by

Lucy Mitchell lives in South Wales with her husband, her two teenage daughters, a giant labrador and a gang of unruly cats. Lucy is the author of the award winning blog, BlondeWriteMore and was a Featured Romance Author on Wattpad. When she’s not working or writing, Lucy can be found listening to audiobooks in a muddy field with her dog or sat outside her local pub in the sunshine enjoying a glass of wine. Her debut novel Instructions Falling In Love Again is OUT now and already pulling in some fabulous reviews ❤️

12 thoughts on “How To Not Feel Embarrassed About Being a Writer #writers #amwriting

  1. I wish had wings so I could fly across the country and over the ocean to join in the hug-fest. We in my family are big huggers. Well, at least on my dad’s side of the family. When I was younger I was known for my hugs. None of that prissy, barely pat your back stuff for me. Nuh-uh, noooo way. Bear hugs are the only way to go. (not I think you may be glad there is a country and an ocean between us, but I’ll just ignore the frightened looks on your faces Blonde & Sarah. 🙂 )

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.