Welcome to my writing life diary.
This week I want to talk about falling off your writing bike. All sorts of writing related issues can send you flying over your writing bike’s handlebars; crisis of confidence, rejection, not having any success in a writing competition, negative feedback etc.
I am always coming off my writing bike and flying head first into imaginary bushes.
In fact today, as I type this post, I am staggering out of an imaginary ditch, with bruised elbows and knees after not getting anywhere with a writing competition.
I don’t want to win this writing competition, I just wanted to be long listed or have some sign of validation I suppose. As we all know looking for validation in writing competitions is pointless. So, when the writers through to the next stage were announced – I hit a bump in my writing road, flew over the handlebars and into a ditch.
My writing bike is lying across the dusty road and I need to go get back on it.
Getting back on your writing bike requires bravery.
You can lose your writing confidence in a matter of seconds, hit a bump in the writing road and take a nasty tumble. You’d think climbing back on your writing bike would be easy – ha! Think again!
Some days picking up your writing bicycle and placing your butt back in the saddle can be so hard.
So, if you are reading this after coming off your writing bike, here’s my top tips for climbing back on:
1. Falling off a bike hurts and the same goes for writing bikes. It’s going to hurt so prepare for a day of self care. Today I am going to eat a lot of cheese (cures all sorts of ailments), hug my dog like crazy and go buy some books (cures heartbreak).
2. Accept the writing road you are cycling down is VERY bumpy and you are going to come off your bike sooner or later.
3. The sooner you get back on your writing bike, the faster you will recover from your imaginary wounds.
4. We are all at different stages of our writing journeys. Don’t pay too much attention to those who are sailing past you as you dust yourself down and open your imaginary emergency first aid kit. Especially those writers who are shouting, ‘this is so easy, look – no hands!’
5. Don’t view all bumps as negative. Sometimes we need to fall off our writing bikes. These bumps make us think and change course. Sometimes we just need to sit by the side of the road for a bit and think!
6. Laugh! Try to laugh a lot for the next few days. It really does make you feel better.
Get up, writer. Brush yourself down. Wipe away those tears and pick up your writing bike. We all fall off our writing bikes so we know how hard it is to get back on. You got this!
Here’s this week’s episode of:
When Harry Met Po.
This fictional series is where I record the friendship highs and lows between Harry, my cat and Po, my dog.
Harry was listening to the gossip coming from the queue for the cat bed.
According to the other cats Po had a lady dog friend called Lottie.
Harry’s initial reaction was one of fear.
Was this the end of his friendship with Po? Would this lady friend put a stop to their fun? According to the cat gossip, Lottie was moving in.
Po was in love with his lady dog friend, Lottie. She looked amazing in her blue collar.
He was secretly glad his owner had paid for him to have a little trip to the vet last year. When Lottie was around he lost all sense of control and he couldn’t afford a family at this stage in his life.
Harry knew communication was important in a friendship so when Po came in from his walk, he asked his furry chum if they could talk.
Po explained he was in love with Lottie but had no intention of moving her in. She had chewed his ear off all afternoon and it was hard work to keep her entertained.
Once Po had assured Harry that Lottie would not be moving in and was just a bit of fun in the dog field, the two chums were happy again. Po also told Harry to stop listening to idle cat gossip.
Is there an update on my book?
Instructions For Falling In Love Again is still with my editor and there has been no word from her. Yikes! Let’s hope it is keeping her busy 🙂
Thought of the week?
When you read this post, it will be Mother’s Day in the UK.
When you are a writer you do feel like a parent. Your stories are your kids and you want the best for them. Some days you are proud of them and some days you question your abilities as a parent.
Your story kids will surprise you. They will want to do their own thing.
I never thought my firstborn story would want to head for the self publishing path but that’s where it’s going and as a writer parent I have to respect its wishes. It kept tugging at my ankles and pleading with me to set it free. Sometimes we have to let our children find their own way in the world.
To all the writer parents of stories out there, you are doing a great job!
Raising story children is not easy but I believe there is a reason why we are blessed with our story children.
They chose us as writer parents because there was something special we could offer them.
I don’t think we discover what this is until our story children have grown up and gone out into the world. One day I think I will look back and see why Instructions For Falling In Love Again chose me to be its writer parent.
Have a great day x